Free Will Astrology, Nov. 19-25

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ARIES (March 21-April 19): In the coming weeks, I invite you to commune intimately with your holy anger. Not petulant tantrums, not the ego’s defensive rage, but the fierce love that refuses to tolerate injustice. You will be wise to draw on the righteous “No” that draws boundaries and defends the vulnerable. I hope you will call on protective fury on behalf of those who need help. Here’s a reminder of what I’m sure you know: Calmness in the face of cruelty isn’t enlightenment but complicity. Your anger, when it safeguards and serves love rather than destroys, is a spiritual practice.

TAURUS (April 20-May 20): The Korean concept of jeong is the emotional bond that forms between people, places or things through shared experiences over time. It’s deeper than love and more complex than attachment: the accumulated weight of history together. You can have jeong for a person you don’t even like anymore, for a city that broke your heart, for a coffee mug you’ve used every morning for years. As the scar tissue of togetherness, it can be beautiful and poignant. Now is an especially good time for you to appreciate and honor your jeong. Celebrate and learn from the soulful mysteries your history has bequeathed you.

GEMINI (May 21-June 20): More than 100 trillion bacteria live in your intestines. They have a powerful impact. They produce neurotransmitters, influence your mood, train your immune system and communicate with your brain via the vagus nerve. Other life forms are part of the team within you, too, including fungi, viruses and archaea. So in a real sense, you are not merely a human who contains small organisms. You are an ecosystem of species making collective decisions. Your “gut feelings” are collaborations. I bring this all to your attention because the coming weeks will be a highly favorable time to enhance the health of your gut biome. For more info: tinyurl.com/EnhanceGutBiome.

CANCER (June 21-July 22): Why, yes, I myself am born under the sign of Cancer the Crab, just as you are. So as I offer you my ongoing observations and counsel, I am also giving myself blessings. In the coming weeks, we will benefit from going through a phase of consolidation and integration. The creative flourishes we have unveiled recently need to be refined and activated on deeper levels. This necessary deepening may initially feel more like work than play, and not as much fun as the rapid progress we have been enjoying. But with a slight tweak of our attitude, we can thoroughly thrive during this upcoming phase.

LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): I suggest that in the coming weeks you care more about getting things done than pursuing impossible magnificence. The simple labor of love you actually finish is worth more than the masterpiece you never start. The healthy but makeshift meal you throw together feeds you well, whereas the theoretical but abandoned feast does not. Even more than usual, Leo, the perfect will be the enemy of the good. Here are quotes to inspire you. 1. “Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order.” —Anne Wilson Schaef. 2. “Striving for excellence motivates you; striving for perfection is demoralizing.” —Harriet Braiker. 3. “Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection, we can catch excellence.” —Vince Lombardi.

VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Now is an excellent time to practice the art of forgetting. I hope you formulate an intention to release the grievances and grudges that are overdue for dissolution. They not only don’t serve you but actually diminish you. Here’s a fact about your brain: It remembers everything unless you actively practice forgetting. So here’s my plan: Meditate on the truth that forgiveness is not a feeling; it’s a decision to stop rehearsing the resentment, to quit telling yourself the story that keeps the wound fresh. The lesson you’re ready to learn: Some memories are worth evicting. Not all the past is worth preserving. Selective amnesia can be a survival skill.

LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): A Navajo blessing says, “May you walk in beauty.” Not just see beauty or create it, but walk in it, inhabit it and move through the world as if beauty is your gravity. When you’re at the height of your lyrical powers, Libra, you do this naturally. You are especially receptive to the aesthetic soul of things. You can draw out the harmony beneath surface friction and improvise grace in the midst of chaos. I’m happy to tell you that you are currently at the height of these lyrical powers. I hope you’ll be bold in expressing them. Even if others aren’t consciously aware and appreciative of what you’re doing, beautify every situation you’re in.

SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Your theme for the coming weeks is the fertile power of small things: the transformations that happen in the margins and subtle gestures. A kind word that shifts someone’s day, for instance. Or a refusal to participate in casual cruelty. Or a choice to see value in what you’re supposed to ignore. So I hope you will meditate on this healing theme: Change doesn’t always announce itself with drama and manifestos. The most heroic act might be to pay tender attention and refuse to be numbed. Find power in understated insurrections.

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): A day on Venus (one rotation on its axis) lasts about 243 Earth days. However, a year on Venus (one orbit around the sun) takes only about 225 Earth days. So a Venusian day is longer than its year. If you lived on Venus, the sun wouldn’t even set before your next Venusian birthday arrived. Here’s another weird fact: Contrary to what happens on every other planet in the solar system, on Venus the sun rises in the west and sets in the east. Moral of the story: Even planets refuse to conform and make their own rules. If celestial bodies can be so gloriously contrary to convention, so can you. In accordance with current astrological omens, I encourage you to exuberantly explore this creative freedom in the coming weeks.

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Let’s revisit the ancient Greeks’ understanding that we are all born with a daimon: a guiding spirit who whispers help and counsel, especially if we stay alert for its assistance. Typically, the messages are subtle, even half-disguised. Our daimons don’t usually shout. But I predict that will change for you in the coming weeks, especially if you cultivate listening as a superpower. Your personal daimon will be extra talkative and forthcoming. So be vigilant for unexpected support, Capricorn. Expect epiphanies and breakthrough revelations. Pay attention to the book that falls open to a page that has an oracular hint just for you. Take notice of a song that repeats or a sudden urge to change direction on your walk.

AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Awe should be one of your featured emotions in the coming weeks. I hope you will also seek out and cultivate reverence, deep respect, excited wonder and an attraction to sublime surprises. Why do I recommend such seemingly impractical measures? Because you’re close to breaking through into a heightened capacity for generosity of spirit and a sweet lust for life. Being alert for amazement and attuned to transcendent experiences could change your life for the better forever. I love your ego—it’s a crucial aspect of your make-up—but now is a time to exalt and uplift your soul.

PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): What if your anxiety is actually misinterpreted excitement? What if the difference between worry and exhilaration is the story you tell yourself about the electricity streaming through you? Maybe your body is revving up for something interesting and important, but your mind mislabels the sensation. Try this experiment: Next time your heart races and your mind spins, tell yourself “I’m excited” instead of “I’m anxious.” See if your mood shape-shifts.

Local Cornucopia, A Market for Makers

A “made locally” store is stocked with much of all we make here. In a right world, there would be one of these stores in every town and village. 

In a righteous world, there would be more than one store and kiosk, differentiated in concept (home goods, clothing, food, art and apothecary), as the local production of mutually supporting artisans displaced the cheap importation of mass manufactures.

Made local stores incubate local brands emerging from local garages and kitchens, producing local culture and sense of place, paying local sales tax and circulating local dollars in an upwardly spinning trajectory of green, blue, pink and golden prosperity.

Blinking that dizzy vision out of my eyes, I see that we now have two of these stores. One is in Santa Rosa, and one is in Novato. And for that give credit to Willow Fish Peterson, owner and steward of Made Local Marketplace. For this edition of the column, I visited the second store, newly opened in Novato, at the corner of Grant and Machin. 

With a high window carved out from a former monumental bank, it is at once classical and rustic, in the farm and antique style of Fish Peterson’s furnishing and display. Divided into small departments, the store has sections for local home goods, clothing, art, apothecary, dry good provisions, jewelry, beer and wine. 

Rather than reproduce the content of her successful Santa Rosa store (and stretch the concept of local to regionality), Fish Peterson reached out to small producers in her new Marin neighborhood, which now constitute 40 of the 90 local artists and makers represented in her store.

Cincinnatus Hibbard: Willow, what is your connection to Marin?

Willow Fish Peterson: My husband is from Marin.

You’re a growing success. Why do people like your stores?

People like that they can come in and find a truly unique gift—without having to do that online thing we do for convenience but not for joy. It’s a joyful experience to shop at one of our stores. You can touch and smell things, turn them over and feel their worth in your own two hands.

I understand that your store employees are some of the local makers represented here. Is it true that they know the local names and stories of all the producers in the shop?

Yes (laughing).

That is special, and distinctly different about the Made Local store—you know the names of the lives you touch. Let me choose one product at random… That display of local purses caught my eye; they look as fine as anything you would see at Coach.

That’s Ann Victor, and Ann Victor is her label (laughing).  She’s been making them for a long time and has a closet full of them, but this is her first time selling them—and they are just flying off the shelf.

Besides the heart, I’m interested in the numbers. What is the deal you offer your makers?

All the information is on our website, (as well as the) application to apply. We offer makers a 50/50 split. It is consignment based, and they are paid at the end of every month. At the end of the month, I get to write 170 local checks.

Learn more: The new Novato Made Local store is at 881 Grant Ave. The Santa Rosa store is at 2421 Magowan Dr. Visit their website at madelocalmarketplace.com. Shop their ever popular local cornucopia gift baskets there. To hear Fish Peterson’s rippling laugh, visit the store or download the podcast of our 2022 interview, ‘Sonoma County: A Community Portrait,’ episode 14.

Two Guitars and a Car, Tinsley Ellis comes to H’Burg

Tinsley Ellis is out driving around the country on what Alligator Records has dubbed his “Two Guitars and a Car” tour.

That name comes from the fact that Ellis, a powerhouse electric blues/rock guitarist, is touring behind Naked Truth, his first acoustic album, carrying only the 1969 Martin D-35 acoustic guitar that his father gave him when he graduated from high school and a shiny 1937 National steel guitar.

Ellis brings this bare bones setup to Healdsburg’s Raven Performing Arts Theater on Friday, Nov. 21—and much more.

“And I’ve got a trunkload of vinyl and CDs that I sell,” Ellis said in an interview. “They’re forgetting about that. But I definitely wanted to make sure I had a big enough trunk to carry a lot of vinyl and CDs around.”

Released in February 2024 when it immediately climbed the blues charts, Naked Truth is the 21st album of Ellis’ now-more-than-40-year career and the first he’s done entirely on acoustic guitars.

“I’ve got a bucket list of albums I want to make,” Ellis said. “One of them was certainly a live album, and I did that in 2005. Another one on my bucket list was to do an all-instrumental album. I did that in 2013. So this is my acoustic album and my acoustic tour.”

Playing acoustically, Ellis has learned, is different from hitting the stage with a band.

“It’s a little scary when I first go up there to play because I’m so used to going up there and being able to rely on the drumbeat and the thumping bass, and now it’s just me,” Ellis said. “It’s the first time I’ve really been challenged musically in a long time, and I think that’s a good thing.”

Over the course of a show, Ellis said, he’ll do much, if not all, of Naked Truth, mixing in songs like the Skip James-inspired “Windowpane” and the “Tallahassee Blues” and covers of Son House’s “Death Letter Blues” and Waters’ “Don’t Go No Farther” with selections from throughout his career that take his blues-rock acoustic.

“It’s pretty high energy really; it’s not a mellow thing,” Ellis said of the acoustic show. “It’s just more personal. Another aspect of it that I really like, that people also like, is I talk about how I wrote certain songs, give a little backstory to the songs, and also talk about experiences from the road.”

An example of one of Ellis’ experiences:

“I always want to talk about the first time I saw BB King,” Ellis said. “I was a teenager, and that’s the first time I saw real blues and I got to meet him. It was a teen show. And he greeted all the kids in the lobby. I think it was like 1972, a long time ago, over 50 years ago. He was the nicest man. After that, I really got hooked on the blues and I got to like literally sit at the feet of people like B.B., Muddy Waters and Howlin’ Wolf.”

Over the years, Ellis has shared the stage with the likes of Otis Rush, Buddy Guy, Albert Collins and Koko Taylor. But he’s always carved his own path, veering away from the straight Chicago blues for a fervent brand of electric guitar driven blues rock.

“I’m really fortunate to be with Alligator Records,” Ellis said. “They’re known for house rockin’ blues, like Hound Dog Taylor and Son Seals. That just happens to be the music I love the most.  But on the other side of the coin is rock and roller; some rock and roll blues is my love, but rock and roll is definitely my heritage. So I like to mix it up.”

Ellis will be stirring up that musical mix, that will include some Leo Kottke-style folk, each time he stops the car, gets out the guitars and climbs onto a stool on a club stage to deliver another installment of what has become a very crowd-pleasing show.

“One thing I’ve noticed about this show that I haven’t seen in years is the blues show can be—especially when I really start ripping it up with a band—a lot; snarling, lead guitarist and serious face audience,” he said. “I’ve never seen so many smiles on an audience in my life than when I do this. I kind of feel that an entertainer’s in the smile business. So a lot of smiles makes me happy, and that lets me know I’m on the right track.”

Tinsley Ellis performs at 7:30pm, Friday, Nov. 21, at Raven Performing Arts Theater, 115 North St., Healdsburg. raventheater.org.

’Tis the Season for Art, SoCo’s Annual Toast to Talent

A flurry of art events that sparkle brighter than a Christmas are about to descend on Sonoma County like so many reindeer.

At the Finley Center, the Redwood Writers Holiday Book & Craft Fair gathers more than three dozen local authors and artisans selling books, jewelry and handmade ornaments. Between signings and “Table Topics” on writing and marketing, it’s a cozy bazaar for the bookish and the curious alike. 10am–4pm, Saturday, Nov. 15, Finley Center, Santa Rosa. Admission free.

In Sonoma, the Japanese Gift Wrapping Workshop at the Sonoma Valley Museum of Art elevates the humble present into an art form. Artist Megumi Inouye demonstrates how pleating, folding and tying become gestures of gratitude in themselves—proof that what’s outside the box can be just as beautiful as what’s inside. 6–8pm, Wednesday, Nov. 19, 551 Broadway, Sonoma. $65 members/$85 non-members.

For a more tactile holiday keepsake, the Porcelain Ornaments class at Sonoma Community Center turns clay into heirlooms. Students hand-build and decorate their own ornaments, exploring slip techniques for color and texture while reliving that childhood joy of making a mess for a good cause. 6–8pm, Thursday, Nov. 20, 276 E. Napa St., Sonoma. $35 registration.

If one prefers their festivities shaken and stirred, the Flamingo Christmas Spectacular at the Flamingo Resort’s Lazeaway Club offers a cocktail-fueled kickoff with live music, carolers and a visit from Santa himself. Proceeds benefit Toys for Tots, so each toast spreads the cheer twice. 4–7pm, Sunday, Nov. 23, Flamingo Resort & Spa, 2777 Fourth St., Santa Rosa. Admission free.

Over on Olivet, DeLoach Vineyards’ Sip & Paint: Holiday Edition doubles as a low-stakes atelier. A Painted Cellars instructor walks everyone—yes, even the “I can’t draw” contingent—through a wintry canvas while estate wine keeps morale high. One leaves with their own art and just enough confidence to hang it somewhere other than the garage. 12–2:30pm, Saturday, Nov. 15, DeLoach Vineyards, 1791 Olivet Rd., Santa Rosa. Advance ticket; includes supplies and first pour.

Choral fans will find serenity at A Candlelight Christmas with Cantiamo Sonoma, whose harmonies fill St. Seraphim Orthodox Cathedral with candlelit glow and carols from Britten to Stopford. 7:30–9pm, Tuesday, Dec. 2, 90 Mountain View Ave., Santa Rosa. $20 at the door.

Across the county line, the Petaluma Cinema Series screens Tim Burton’s stop-motion classic, The Nightmare Before Christmas—a perfect blend of Halloween edge and holiday charm. Expect a brief talk on animation before Jack Skellington’s grand mischief begins. 6–10pm, Wednesday, Dec. 3, Carole L. Ellis Auditorium, SRJC Petaluma. $6–$7.

For traditionalists, The Nutcracker! Magical Christmas Ballet at the Luther Burbank Center transforms Tchaikovsky’s classic into a dazzling international spectacle of acrobatics, puppetry and high-flying dance. 3:30 and 7:30pm, Thursday, Dec. 18, 50 Mark West Springs Rd., Santa Rosa. Tickets via lutherburbankcenter.org.

Meanwhile, Rohnert Park’s Holiday Ballet: Clara’s Enchanted Dream re-imagines the Nutcracker through a Latinx lens, with Puerto Rican guest artists Carla Curet and Estevalier Melendez leading a joyful journey through the Land of Sweets. Times vary, Dec. 20–21, Lawrence E. Jones Theater, 5154 Snyder Ln., Rohnert Park. $25 adults/$15 kids under 9.

And for those who like their classics syncopated, The Duke Ellington Nutcracker by New World Ballet swings into the Datorie Foundation with jazz-infused arrangements that trade sugarplums for saxophones. 3–5pm, Saturday, Dec. 20, 111 Third St., Santa Rosa. Tickets via New World Ballet.

The Trouble With Tradwives: Toxic Nostalgia for Conventional Gender Roles

Tradwives are having a moment. Amidst the rejection of “lean-in” culture and “girl boss” backlash, a host of popular social media accounts created by and geared toward young women promote the role of traditional wives, or “tradwives.” 

Now, a proliferation of so-called “aspirational” lifestyle posts romanticize conventional gender roles, marriage, motherhood, domesticity and financial dependence on men. The “tradwife” hashtag has become so widely used on TikTok and Instagram that the term was added to the Cambridge Dictionary last August.

Although framed as a feminine ideal, the tradwife movement is rooted in toxic nostalgia and patriarchal supremacy. But its devastating cultural and political impacts are often discounted because conservative Christian influencers frame the tradwife “lifestyle” as a “personal choice.” Many don’t even claim the label despite actively promoting the movement’s regressive ideologies. In order to prevent the erosion of women’s rights and political escapism, there must be a reckoning with so-called tradwives.

On the surface, popular tradwife influencers, including Hannah Neeleman, Nara Smith, Estee Williams and the women of #momtok (otherwise known as the stars of the Hulu reality series The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives), appear radically different from one another. 

For instance, Neeleman is a former Juilliard-trained dancer turned homesteader who dons prairie dresses while milking cows, baking sourdough bread and homeschooling her children on a Utah farm. Nara Smith, a model, is known for preparing “easy recipes” (like SpaghettiOs from scratch) while wearing elaborate designer dresses. Estee Williams, a former bodybuilder, channels a retro-1950s look and gives advice like, “Keep up your beauty. You and your husband will benefit.” 

The women of #momtok are “cool moms” who look stylish while busting midriff-baring dance moves. These superficial differences might lead many to believe that the tradwife lifestyle is varied and its advocates are diverse, but the reality is that their underlying message is ultimately the same—they celebrate women’s disempowerment by promoting conservative values.

At its core, the concept of a tradwife is predicated on the acceptance of heteronormative, cisgender relationships that privilege traditional masculinity above all else. In fact, the very prerequisite to be a tradwife is being “chosen” by a man. From a tradwife perspective, a woman’s ultimate value lies in being a wife and mother, which cannot be achieved without male validation. 

To gain that approval, women must conform to a submissive hyperfeminine ideal. This means focusing on homemaking, childrearing, appeasing their husbands and maintaining their appearances. As a result, tradwives forfeit opportunities to engage in the larger world and act autonomously. Even if they weren’t preoccupied by chasing tradwife perfection, anything outside the home is considered the purview of their husbands.

Ironically, some of the most successful influencers have found ways to convert social media fame into income through sponsored content and entrepreneurial pursuits of their own (like Neeleman’s Ballerina Farm or Mayci Neeley’s Baby Mama supplements). In other words, the very influencers who proudly profess their commitment to being stay-at-home wives and mothers (rather than “career women”) profit from followers who buy products to emulate the tradwife lifestyle. 

Even in rare instances when tradwives are their families’ primary breadwinners, the understanding is that their husbands will control and manage their earnings. Despite lucrative brand deals and generating income, tradwife influencers remain financially dependent on men. In essence, they work for them.

As part of #tradwifelife, women are expected to embody a classic femininity that is nonthreatening but also appealing to the male gaze. As such, tradwife influencers and their followers fetishize Eurocentric beauty ideals that are virtually unattainable. 

This public image manifests in social media posts featuring their extremely fit bodies (often transformed by expensive plastic surgery, augmented with intense exercise and diet), carefully styled hair and makeup and coordinated outfits—all of which require significant time and money. While some tradwife influencers share allegedly candid “#GRWM” (“get ready with me”) posts, these minimize the cost and effort that goes into their appearance.

Similarly, influencers downplay the realities of childbirth—a central component of the tradwife life—and its physical toll on mothers. For example, when Neeleman chose to compete for the Mrs. World beauty title just two weeks after the unmedicated home birth of her eighth child, she dismissed the possibility of any hardships in preparing for the pageant. Not only does her example set unrealistic expectations for beauty and motherhood; it also tacitly reinforces how events like the Mrs. World beauty pageant focus on women’s bodies and appearances as ways to police and control them.

To be clear, many of the influencers extolling the virtues of being a tradwife can only do so because of their privilege. Generational wealth and family support, along with the monetization of their social media accounts, make it possible for them to curate the appearance online of a perfect tradwife life. Most women, no matter how closely they follow #tradwife feeds, lack the resources necessary to achieve the idealized “lifestyle.” Attempting to raise ever-growing families on a single income while aspiring to impossible tradwife standards sets women up for failure. In fact, even the influencers behind the picture-perfect posts have suffered physically and mentally throughout their tradwife journeys.

The people who benefit most from the tradwife trend are straight, white, conservative men. Overall, tradwife content celebrates obsequious deference to men and reinforces the erosion of women’s independence, which in turn reinforces patriarchal power. Furthermore, the hashtag erases the existence of queer and trans people while helping to naturalize horrific Trump administration policies on gender identity and bodily autonomy. Thus, the trouble with tradwives is that they are being used as a tool against young women to undo years of progress on gender equity and women’s rights and to normalize MAGA culture writ large.

Lori Bindig Yousman is a professor of communication & media in the School of Communication, Media & the Arts and associate dean of academic affairs for the College of Arts & Sciences at Sacred Heart University in Connecticut. Her research focuses on media literacy and the representation and commodification of young femininity.

Regifting: North Bay Theater Companies Bring Back Holiday Faves

If there’s one word to describe North Bay theater companies’ choices for their 2025 holiday productions, it’s “familiar.” One company is repeating their selections from last year while two others bring back chestnuts whose memories still linger from their successful mounting on other local stages.

Rohnert Park’s Spreckels Theatre Company is the company with two returning productions from 2024. It’s a Wonderful Life: A Live Radio Play is, as its title implies, the 1946 Frank Capra film performed as a 1940s live radio broadcast in front of a studio audience. Five actors in period costume, live Foley sound effects and a beloved story all combine to present the quintessential holiday show. It goes on-air in Spreckels’ Condiotti Black Box Theatre on Nov. 21.

Spreckels is also remounting the devastating All is Calm: The Christmas Truce of 1914. It’s the story of one Christmas during World War I when the guns went silent and enemies became friends. Some of the North Bay’s best performers give voice to the soldiers and military leaders through their letters and official correspondence and join together as an a capella choir to bring the music, a mixture of reverent Christmas classics with war songs of the era, to life. It may be the most emotionally-impactful 70 minutes I spent last year. The show runs for three performances only, Dec. 12 to 14. spreckelsonline.com

For those seeking a lighter holiday show, two companies are producing musical stage adaptations of classic Christmas movies.  

Santa Rosa’s 6th Street Playhouse will be presenting A Christmas Story, the Musical. Based on the 1983 Bob Clark film that runs 24 hours on a couple of cable channels, the adventures of Ralphie and his desire for a Red Ryder Carbine-action 200-shot Range Model Air Rifle are set to songs by the same two guys responsible for Dear Evan Hansen and The Greatest Showman. Scott Farkus starts terrorizing Railroad Square on Nov. 21. 6thstreetplayhouse.com

Sonoma Arts Live goes a little more traditional with Scrooge: the Musical. Based on the 1970 film starring Albert Finney (which was itself based on A Christmas Carol), the Academy Award-nominated score by Leslie Bricusse has been carried over to the stage version. Four ghosts start haunting Sonoma Dec. 5. sonomartslive.com

Transcendence Theatre Company brings their Broadway Holiday production to two venues this year. The Sonoma County Day School will host the musical revue Dec. 13 and 14, while Sonoma’s Sebastiani Theatre will be hosting four performances Dec. 18–21. bestnightever.org

Lucky Penny Productions unleashes The Best Christmas Pageant Ever in Napa on Dec. 5. luckypennynapa.com

Spend a night or afternoon not shopping, and support live theater.

Lauded Legacy: Courtney Benham Reignites a Wine Icon

Courtney Benham is founder and president of the vast CMB Family of Wines, including Martin Ray, Angeline, Synthesis, his own label, plus Vina Robles and Foppiano. His days bounce between vineyards, blending sessions, site visits and strategy meetings; never the same day twice. It’s why he says it is “probably why I still love it after more than 40 years.”

Amber Turpin: How did you get into this work?

Courtney Benham: I grew up on a farm in Bakersfield; it was a childhood filled with adventure—and almonds, pistachios and long hot summers. Agriculture was part of life. After college, I gave professional tennis a go, but it turns out I was more wired for soft dirt than hard courts. My family started Lost Hills Winery, and that was my entry point into wine. I learned all sides of the business, from hauling hoses to running numbers. A few years later, I started Blackstone which, luckily, ended up being a big success and helped catapult my wine career even further.

In 1990, while looking for warehouse space in San Jose and while still working on Blackstone, I stumbled upon 1,500 cases of library wine from pioneering winemaker Martin Ray. I was very impressed. I bought the wine and the name, and eventually the historic Martini & Prati winery in the Russian River Valley, ultimately turning it into what today is Martin Ray Vineyards & Winery.

Did you ever have an ‘aha’ moment with a certain beverage? If so, tell us about it.

That Martin Ray discovery was it. I opened those old bottles and realized how alive they still were—complex, expressive, totally unexpected. It hit me that wine could outlast all of us if made right. That moment changed my whole perspective on winemaking—I stopped thinking in terms of vintages and started thinking in terms of legacy.

What is your favorite thing to drink at home?

Depends on the day and what’s on the table. If I’m grilling or cooking something simple, I’ll reach for a pinot. I love the balance and earthiness, especially from the Russian River or Santa Cruz Mountains. If it’s a warm afternoon, a chardonnay with good acidity hits the spot. 

Where do you like to go out for a drink?

I like places that feel personal and that have food and wine because you can’t have one without the other. Around Marin, there are a few tucked-away spots where the list is thoughtful without trying too hard, like Buckeye, Bungalow and Poggio. 

If you were stuck on a desert island, what would you want to be drinking (besides fresh water)?

Aged pinot, no question. Something with history and a little mystery. But I’d take a dry rosé, too because it’s probably going to be hot…CMB Family of Wines, 2191 Laguna Rd., Santa Rosa. 707.823.2404. courtneybenhamwines.com.

Timeless Swagger, Genre-Defying Music & KWMR Benefit

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Larkspur

Swing Thing

It’s time to get ready to swing as the Fil Lorenz Big Band Orchestra hits the Lark Theater with guest vocalist Jonathan Poretz, channeling the golden age of cool with hits from Frank Sinatra, Dean Martin, Bobby Darin and more. Led by saxophonist and arranger Fil Lorenz, this powerhouse 1940s–50s-style orchestra ignites the stage with blistering horn lines, rich harmonies and timeless swagger. 7:30–9:30pm, Saturday, Nov. 22, Lark Theater, 549 Magnolia Ave., Larkspur. GA $60, VIP $75. Tickets: larktheater.net.

Tiburon

Jazz Fusion

The Landmarks Society’s Music at Old St. Hilary’s series continues with a performance by Michael Manring, Larry Kassin and John R. Burr, three Bay Area musicians who blur the lines between jazz, rock, folk and world music. Expect extemporaneous, genre-defying chamber-fusion from this trio of masters: Manring, a virtuoso of the electric bass; Kassin, a resourceful jazz flutist; and Burr, a rollicking pianist fluent in jazz, blues and pop idioms. 4pm, Sunday, Nov. 16, Old St. Hilary’s, 201 Esperanza, Tiburon. $25 ($20 seniors and under 18). Tickets: ticketleap or landmarkssociety.com. Free shuttle from Rustic Bakery, 1550 Tiburon Blvd., starting 30 minutes before showtime.

Petaluma

Feed the Frequency

Griffo Distillery opens its doors for Feed the Frequency—a benefit concert supporting KWMR West Marin Community Radio—on Saturday, Nov. 15. Local band The Space Orchestra headlines the night with a full live recreation of Joe Cocker’s Mad Dogs and Englishmen concert album, backed by a 13-member band and powerhouse vocals by Sebastian Saint James. The evening also features live painting by The Art of Johnny and Random Art Studio, plus seasonal cocktails and pies by Nomad Provisions. 5pm, Saturday, Nov. 15, Griffo Distillery, 1320 Scott St., Petaluma. GA $40; VIP tables $250–$450. Tickets: eventbrite.com. Proceeds benefit KWMR; kwmr.org.

Sebastopol

What’s Cooking?

Cinema buffs can feast with their eyes and appetites at Rialto Cinemas’ Dinner & a Movie Series: “What’s Cooking?”, a multicultural Thanksgiving romp pairing tamales, turkey and samosas both on screen and on the menu. Chef Michele Anna Jordan crafts a six-course meal inspired by the film’s blend of family traditions: a mac ’n’ cheese ball amuse-bouche, fresh prawn spring roll, turkey and sweet potato larb, Puerto Rican-style pernil with green beans and polenta, seasonal greens with cranberry vinaigrette and a cranberry-apple tart with espresso whipped cream. 5:30pm dinner, 7pm film, Sunday, Nov. 16, Rialto Cinemas, 6868 McKinley St., Sebastopol. $9 film-only / $75 dinner & movie. rialtocinemas.com.

Your Letters, Nov. 12

Café Conundrum

Remember when night owls had somewhere to go that wasn’t a gas station or holding cell? In the ’80s and ’90s, Petaluma’s Christine’s Café kept its lights on till midnight, and San Anselmo’s Caffè Nuvo served espresso with a free side of existentialism until, like, late, daddy-o.

Now? The North Bay rolls up its sidewalks at 9pm sharp, which is bad for creative types who are only just coming into full consciousness at that point.

We talk endlessly about “supporting the arts,” yet we’ve eliminated the very habitats where art hatches—those over-caffeinated, late-night crossroads where poets, painters and musicians plotted their next beautiful mistakes.

If we truly want a thriving arts scene, we need more than fancy gastropubs and wine bars. We need late night coffee houses again.

Cassady Caution
Nowheresville

Après Nous, Le Déluge

While millions of Americans are fighting starvation, the message from Mar-a-Lago was a giddy, “Let them sip champagne.”

I have two words for those “Great Gatsby” revelers and their horrible host: “Drink bleach.”

Bob Canning
Petaluma

SMS SOS

In England, it is customary to receive a royal letter from the king or queen when you turn 100 years old. And when you turn 14, you get a text from Andrew.

Craig J. Corsini
San Rafael

Sonomazon Arrives, Driven by Adam Haber of Trellus

Adam Haber is not a local. Unmistakably, Haber is from Long Island. But if his new partnership with SoCo “buy local” champ Go Local realizes just one tenth of its potential, Haber should be allowed to bypass our 25 year naturalization process to become an honorary Sonoma County citizen.

Driven by a mission to save local economies (read communities), Haber and his New York partners have constructed Trellus—an ecommerce platform that reproduces most of the functions of Amazon or Walmart but is exclusive to our beloved local businesses. 

Imagine a quick and easy Amazon experience but with no transnationals, no chains, just our friends and entrepreneurial neighbors. With full buy-in, our beloved local businesses combined could just approximate a one-stop everything store and become our first stop. That’s where their partnership with “trusted local messager” Go Local comes in—in a dual thrust campaign to create critical mass buy-in among local businesses and local consumers.

Despite the fear of the new (York), it’s not a hard sell. By eliminating warehousing and shortening shipping distances, Trellus has lower fees than Amazon or Walmart and vastly faster  shipping times—typically less than a couple hours—even if one is ordering from Cloverdale to Novato, or Bodega to Calistoga. 

Trellus is faster and cheaper than Amazon—and vastly more virtuous. One can see the potential for a local boom. Ecommerce now captures a rising 25% of our sales. That’s 25% of our dollars simply leaving the region instead of recirculating locally via “the multiplier effect.” 

If the Trellus-Go Local partnership realizes even half of its potential, Haber should receive a bronze equestrian statue in front of the mall—for the app that launched on Tuesday, Nov. 11 could be a turning point in our battle with corporations. A battle we have steadily been losing (see bazillionaires and “the death of the middle class” and “the buy out of American democracy”).

Cincinnatus Hibbard: Adam Haber, How many small local Sonoma County businesses were included in yesterday’s launch?

Adam Haber: 87.

Wow. How has recruitment been?

People think the idea is terrific. The biggest pushback is that people fear change. But you have to adapt to the times. Our tool helps mom and pop shops that have been getting their butts kicked for years.

Now that the bandwagon is rolling, I expect there will be many more. You have over 700 businesses in Nassau County, NY. I understand your drivers get 80% of the delivery fee and all the tips… Adam, so much of this partnership depends on trust. Tell us a bit about your motivations.

Google me; check my background. Do a background check. See what I have been involved in—public service, charities, entrepreneurialism. I sell. But I can only sell what I believe in. I don’t oversell; I’m not a BSer. I’m 60, and this is the most exciting thing I have ever been a part of. 

I’m here to show you that I will show up, be responsive, and that I care. That’s all that I can promise. Trust is built over time.

The Trellus app is now available for download at the app store. Visit the website bytrellus.com if interested in signing a local business up. Scan the QR code or type linktr.ee/TrellusLINKS for all of these links plus links to our past cover story, ‘Sonomazon,’ or to hear the full podcast interview with Adam Haber.

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Your Letters, Nov. 12

Café Conundrum Remember when night owls had somewhere to go that wasn’t a gas station or holding cell? In the ’80s and ’90s, Petaluma’s Christine’s Café kept its lights on till midnight, and San Anselmo’s Caffè Nuvo served espresso with a free side of existentialism until, like, late, daddy-o. Now? The North Bay rolls up its sidewalks at 9pm sharp, which...

Sonomazon Arrives, Driven by Adam Haber of Trellus

Scores of local Sonoma businesses sell their wares online with new Trellus app launch.
Adam Haber is not a local. Unmistakably, Haber is from Long Island. But if his new partnership with SoCo “buy local” champ Go Local realizes just one tenth of its potential, Haber should be allowed to bypass our 25 year naturalization process to become an honorary Sonoma County citizen. Driven by a mission to save local economies (read communities), Haber...
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