All About Love, Songs for the Cause, The Heard Eye and 19 Voices

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Larkspur
All About Love

San Francisco jazz vocalist Paula West returns to Marin Jazz with a show that treats love as less a sentiment than a full-contact sport. The Paula West Show: All About Love moves fluidly from Bob Dylan and David Bowie to Irving Berlin and Kurt Weill, reflecting West’s reputation for bending genres without breaking them. Known for her rich contralto and exacting phrasing, she brings a cabaret sensibility that leans into the complicated business of romance—by turns tender, ferocious and quietly devastating. The performance is presented at the historic Lark Theater, an Art Deco mainstay that has evolved into a community arts venue. 7:30pm, Saturday, May 16, at Lark Theater, 549 Magnolia Ave., Larkspur. $70 general, $80 VIP. Tickets and more information at larktheater.net.

Sausalito
Songs for the Cause

Live music takes on a little extra purpose at an afternoon fundraiser for Mental Health Advocates of Marin, where the Alex Markels Quartet, joined by vocalist Karen Sudjian, delivers a set blending bossa nova, blues and jazz. Held at the waterfront haunt Sausalito Seahorse, the event supports the organization’s Enterprise Resource Center, a peer-run drop-in space offering free, no-barrier mental health support, from group programs to creative activities, seven days a week. The afternoon promises equal parts good times and goodwill, with dancing encouraged and donations welcomed at the door. 12:30–3pm, Saturday, May 16, at Sausalito Seahorse, 305 Harbor Dr. Donations accepted. More information at mhamarin.org.

Santa Rosa
The Heard Eye

The North Bay’s The Heard Eye returns to the stage with a fresh single in hand and something closer to a full-band reset in mind. Their new track, “Send Barron,” arrives alongside a video release, but the real action lands live at the Arlene Francis Center, where the group leans into its hybrid of funk, rock, jazz and global rhythms with the kind of loose, exploratory energy that rewards showing up in person. After eight months in the studio, this is less a release party than a reintroduction—tightened chops, expanded sound and a set built to groove. Malone Crew opens, setting the tone before the main event. 7:30pm, Saturday, May 9, at Arlene Francis Center, 99 6th St., Santa Rosa. $15 door. More information at theheardeye.com.

Santa Rosa
19 Voices

Music meets resolve at 19 Voices in Solidarity, a multi-artist fundraiser organized by songwriter Deborah Crooks and staged at The Lost Church. Now in its fifth iteration, the event draws its name from the 19th Amendment and assembles a wide-ranging lineup of Bay Area performers for an evening that blends folk, Americana and independent songwriting with a clear sense of purpose. Proceeds benefit the American Civil Liberties Union and the Peace and Justice Center of Sonoma County, with Mindi Levine serving as emcee. Expect a communal atmosphere where the songs carry both melody and message. 4:45–7:30pm, Saturday, May 16, at The Lost Church, 545 Mendocino Ave., Santa Rosa. $20. More information at tinyurl.com/19VoicesinSolidaritySR.

Your Letters, May 6

Don(t)ation

Recently, The New York Times reported that Fidelity Charitable and Vanguard Charitable, two of the largest donor advised fund providers in the country, blocked their donor account holders from making grants to the Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC), citing a federal indictment brought by the Department of Justice. 

An indictment is an allegation. It is not a conviction. 

The SPLC has spent more than 50 years doing some of the most consequential civil rights work in American history. They won major legal battles against the Ku Klux Klan, virtually shutting down the largest white supremacy organization in the United States. 

They have tracked, named and fought violent hate groups when few others would. What Fidelity and Vanguard have done is like one of us accusing a restaurant of food poisoning before we order. Or asking for a ticket refund prior to a lopsided Giants loss at Oracle Park. Or returning a garment at Vuori in The Village before we actually buy it. Those kinds of things.

Craig J. Corsini
San Rafael

Standard x 2

Per the recent Open Mic column (‘Talk is Cheap,’ April 22, 2026), I want to comment on the unstated premise of the U.S. position on Iran’s nuclear program:

America is imposing a ridiculous double standard on Iran. Why did we even seek a “nuclear deal” with Iran in the first place? The reason is America believes it gets to dictate terms to countries that aren’t even in its sphere of influence, and Iranian nuclear deterrence complicates things for our good friends in Tel Aviv.

I’m going to voice the heterodox but more realistic approach: America’s sovereignty should end at its own borders, and Iran’s sovereignty should likewise be respected at its own borders. If we stop poking Iran and giving Israel what they want while they run roughshod over their neighbors, we avoid the oil shocks, we keep the aluminum and fertilizer flowing. Our maximalist American/Israeli demands are absurd, and we need to wake up and smell the coffee.

Donald F. Barrett
Santa Rosa

Free Will Astrology, May 6-12

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ARIES (March 21-April 19): Astronomers depend on instruments to collect the observations that fuel their work, but they don’t spend every night glued to the stars. On overcast nights, they turn to what they have already gathered, digging into past measurements and reworking the data. You’re in a comparable phase, Aries. For now, looking farther out into the glittering world won’t give you anything essential. The guidance you need is folded into what you’ve previously seen, felt and taken in. It’s waiting for you to sort through and understand it on a deeper level.

TAURUS (April 20-May 20): When lightning from a cloud hits sand or soil, the current travels down into the ground. It melts material along its path and forms tubular, branching glass structures that can penetrate deep below the surface. I believe that metaphorically similar phenomena will soon happen in your life, Taurus. Sudden insights or electrifying feelings will leave permanent traces in your psyche, creating new pathways for energy and information to flow. These disruptive inspirations and inspiring disruptions will rewire your internal circuitry, creating channels that will enhance your receptivity to future revelations. You’ll be able to absorb clues and hints from life that you weren’t tuned into before.

GEMINI (May 21-June 20): I invite you to ruminate on death not as the conclusion of physical life, but as a metaphor for discarding what’s stale and outmoded. In that light, what would be the best deaths you could generate during the coming weeks? Use your imagination with verve and vigor as you dream up scenarios in which you purge parts of your life that are not serving your strongest, most vital yearnings. Visualize how much fresh potency that will liberate. (P.S.: To reiterate: You are NOT in physical danger.)

CANCER (June 21-July 22): What part of you is too tame? Maybe your imagination is politely well-behaved, or maybe your voice edits itself before it dares to say what it really thinks. Can you inspire it to be wilder and freer? Not reckless or destructive, but more honest and experimental? Here’s a suggestion: Go on regular excursions with your wild side, maybe once every two weeks. Follow it as it chooses what to explore and create. This might ultimately teach your tamed self that it’s safe to let primal wisdom help steer you.

LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): According to quantum physics, particles can become “entangled,” which means they share a single connected quantum state. Observing and measuring one particle reveals information about the other, even if they’re not in close proximity. Einstein called this “spooky action at a distance.” I predict that different parts of your life will also interweave in unlikely ways during the coming weeks, Leo. Moves you make in one area will seem to produce mysterious effects in other domains. For example, adjusting your morning routine may boost your creative output. Healing an old alliance could unlock a professional opportunity. Everything will be more intermingled than the visible evidence suggests.

VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Your key power word for now is stretch. Speak it aloud multiple times every day, and write it on a card that you put in a place where you will keep seeing it. Also, make a point of physically and spiritually living out these three senses of stretch: 1. to lengthen, widen or expand without snapping or tearing; 2. to unfurl your body to its full reach, boosting circulation and warding off stiffness or cramps; 3. to take on challenging tasks that push you to amplify your abilities and move beyond what you previously believed you could do.

LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Four oracles for you, Libra: 1. You’re in possession of keys to doors that haven’t been built yet. Tuck those keys away somewhere safe. 2. You’re ready to dream up titles for stories your life hasn’t lived through yet. Write those titles down. 3. You are being granted sneak previews of your future, even though you can’t yet see the bridge that will carry you there. Imprint these glimpses on your memory. 4. You have everything required to grow a more muscular faith that’s grounded in real evidence, not in vague hopes and wishful thinking. Take advantage.

SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): At the ancient Library of Alexandria, editors did far more than copy manuscripts. They compared multiple versions of important works and produced editions that aimed at definitively reliable texts. Their efforts at preservation required active intervention rather than mere reproduction. In the coming weeks, Scorpio, I think it will be fun and transformative for you to make similar adjustments to your own life story. How might your memories of the past need to be corrected and refined? How could you make your personal mythology more accurate and liberating? I invite you to revise and revivify the tales you tell yourself about your magnificent journey from the moment you were born until now.

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): The speed of light is how fast it travels through a vacuum. When moving through water and other media, though, light’s swiftness decreases. The fastest possible speed in the universe only applies in emptiness. If you put anything in light’s way, it slows down. Let’s use this as a metaphor for your life. I suspect you may be frustrated by how incrementally things are moving. But you’re not in a vacuum. Your bright intelligence is traveling through the complex situations that life has brought you. So of course you’re not zipping along with maximum haste. My advice: Be grateful for the slowdowns. Learn all you can about how they are educating and transforming your brilliance. 

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Cryptographer Claude Shannon (1916-2001) was the father of information theory. His achievements were comparable to those of Albert Einstein, Isaac Newton and Charles Darwin. Here’s one of his secrets: He kept his office filled with juggling equipment, unicycles and mechanical toys, which inspired him to solve abstract problems. His playful tinkering helped inspire breakthroughs that ultimately created the digital age. For him, recreation and innovation happened at the same time. I invite you to try a similar approach in the coming weeks, Capricorn. Blend “serious work” with “just messing around.” Be alert for key insights that emerge from improvisation and experimentation. Your diversions won’t be distractions from your purpose but rather pathways toward it.

AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Master calligrapher Yukimi Annand is an Aquarius. She teaches that beautiful letters emerge not just from the hand that holds the brush, but from the entire body and relaxed awareness. Breath, posture, centered weight and quiet mind all flow through the arm to create each stroke. Trying to control the outcome with arduous effort produces rigid, lifeless art. This is an excellent teaching for you right now, Aquarius. Whatever you’re striving to accomplish, I beg you to refrain from forcing results through grueling, overly laborious exertion. Instead, align your whole being so that graceful outcomes flow naturally from your soulful coherence.

PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): The placebo effect is getting stronger over time. Placebos in drug trials are becoming increasingly effective, to the point where it’s sometimes becoming harder to prove that actual drugs work better than sugar pills. Are we getting better at healing ourselves through belief? That would be a problem for pharmaceutical companies but interesting for the rest of us. Dear Pisces, I believe your placebo response is exceptionally strong right now. In the coming weeks, use it deliberately. Be daring and exuberant in your efforts to heal yourself.

Homework: Visualize in detail that you’re living the life you want to. Newsletter.FreeWillAstrology.com

Celebrate Cinco de Mayo

Cinco de Mayo in the Bay Area is less a holiday than a roaming mood—part history lesson, part street party, part excuse to order something with fresh lime in it. While the date commemorates Mexico’s 1862 victory at the Battle of Puebla, around here it has evolved into a broader celebration of Mexican culture, music, food and community life. Which is to say: excellent.

Throughout the North Bay, the region is preparing for a long weekend of banda horns, folklórico skirts, tacos, lowriders and local joy. Here’s your curated list of celebrations:

Sonoma County

Santa Rosa’s Roseland Cinco de Mayo Festival remains one of the North Bay’s most spirited celebrations, filling Roseland Village Shopping Center with live music, dance groups, family activities and food vendors. It happens 4pm, Tuesday, May 5, and costs nothing but calories.

Earlier in the weekend, Sonoma Plaza hosts La Luz Center’s community celebration 1pm, Sunday, May 3, with mariachi, folklórico performances, crafts and food booths. It’s the sort of scene where children dance, grandparents beam and everyone suddenly remembers they love being outside.

Windsor joins in 2pm, Sunday, May 3, with a family-focused festival at Windsor Palms Plaza, while Petaluma offers a more modern interpretation via the Brunch Behavior Day Party at The Block. Translation: DJs, cocktails and a reminder that brunch has become a lifestyle category.

For those who prefer agave with ambiance, the Flamingo Resort in Santa Rosa hosts a mezcal-pairing dinner 6pm, Tuesday, May 5. If your Cinco requires a wisp of smoke, sophistication and plated courses, there you are.

Marin County

Marin approaches Cinco de Mayo with its usual mix of scenic beauty and tasteful restraint. The standout is the Cinco de Mayo Cruise aboard the Angel Island Ferry departing from Tiburon. Boarding begins 6:45pm, Tuesday, May 5, with a two-hour bay cruise featuring drink specials and tacos. Nothing says cultural celebration quite like watching the sun drop behind the Golden Gate while holding a margarita.

If laughter is preferred to sea spray, the Marin Comedy Festival: Cinco de Mayo! lands at the Playhouse in San Anselmo 8pm, Tuesday, May 5. Rising Bay Area comics take the stage for an 18+ showcase. A solid option for those who’d like to celebrate by laughing at someone else’s problems.

Napa County

Napa, naturally, has turned Cinco de Mayo into an elegant proposition. Mi Sueño Winery hosts a fiesta 1pm, Saturday, May 2, pairing Mexican cuisine with estate wines. This is Napa’s gift: taking anything festive and adding tannins.

More philanthropic is La Toque’s 12th Annual Cinco de Mayo Benefit Dinner 5:30pm, Sunday, May 3. Chef Ken Frank transforms the acclaimed restaurant into “El Toque” for a five-course Mexican-inspired dinner benefiting Puertas Abiertas. It is both charitable and delicious, the noblest of combinations.

For a younger, louder counterpoint, 1331 Cocktails hosts Love Language: Napa Day Party 3pm, Saturday, May 2, with R&B, Latin and hip-hop in the mix. Proof that Napa can occasionally remove its blazer.

The Bay Area’s Cinco de Mayo calendar reflects the region at its best: culturally alive, neighborhood-driven and hungry.

The Final Frontier: SRJC theater students present sci-fi/horror drama

Dramatic plays in the sci-fi/horror genre are few and far between. Whether it’s budgetary restraints or the difficulty in getting audiences to suspend their disbelief that much, folks interested in seeing that stripe of show usually have limited opportunities to do so. 6th Street Playhouse’s recent production of Marjorie Prime and the Spreckels Theatre Company premiere of David Templeton’s Galatea a few years back would be the most recent examples of locally done work in the genre. 

Leave it to the students of Santa Rosa Junior College Theatre Arts program to band together to produce something little seen. Their Theater Student Production Club is presenting Alastair McDowall’s X for a very limited run. I was able to attend the final dress rehearsal, but you can catch it in the SRJC’s Frank Chong Studio Theater for four performances only through May 3. 

It’s set on a research base on Pluto, where a skeleton crew of four awaits a ship to bring them back to Earth. They’ve received word that the ship’s arrival has been delayed, then they hear… nothing. 

Their repeated messages home never get a response, though indications are that they have been received. Is their communications equipment faulty or was it sabotaged? What has happened back on Earth? Have they been abandoned? Does Earth even exist anymore? 

As the isolation begins to take its toll, an even greater horror soon surfaces. Their system of time measurement used appears to be faulty. With no way to accurately measure time, does time have meaning anymore? How long have they been there? How long have they been waiting to be rescued? Hours? Days? Months? Years?

And then the crew starts to hear and see things…

This is a really interesting show, well produced and performed by a talented group of students.  Lizzy Bies plays Gilda, a geologist put in the Captain’s role. Justin Smith plays Ray, the one-time Captain now straining to stay connected to the Earth through photos and sounds. Rachel Wyne plays Cole, a meteorologist with a child back home to whom they are desperate to return. Director Moose Frank plays Clark, a mathematician who believes in the here and now and not much else. Maya Tuchband plays Mattie, a station engineer. Or is she?  Then there’s this girl (Naomi Roth)…

All give strong performances. 

Frank shows a strong hand as a director and has a team of designers who have executed his vision well on what I’m suspecting is a minimal budget. Designer Bridget Lustenberger’s set well reflects the sterility of space. Sound is a big element in this production and designer Dylan Mooney has it coming to the audience from all directions. Lighting by Anthony Newton is also very effective. Costumes by Reynalda Cruz are basic and believable. A shout out to stage manager Marsh Jackson and board operators Xitlalli Saldana and Noe Margulis for making the technical elements flow seamlessly.  

They all work together to bring a real sense of atmosphere (no pun intended) to McDowall’s space drama. It’s not the easiest show to follow but heaven forbid a show be produced that requires an audience’s full attention. The play is a bit of a puzzle and challenges the audience to put it together by its conclusion. 

Accept the challenge.

‘X’ runs through May 3 in the Frank Chong Studio Theatre in Santa Rosa Junior College’s Burbank Auditorium, 1501 Mendocino Ave., Santa Rosa. Fri & Sat, 7:30pm; Sat & Sun, 2pm. $15 suggested donation at door.

‘Dispatches’: Artist Transforms Wildfire Experiences into Haunting Sound Art

Some events burn through a place. Others continue burning quietly inside the people who lived through them. Multimedia artist Merlin Coleman has made a work that listens to both. Her new work, DISPATCHES from the CHARCOAL FOREST, opens May 1 in the East Bay.  

Part choral performance, part sound installation, part reckoning, the piece draws from interviews with cleanup workers, survivors, dispatch audio and others touched by the Tubbs Fire, which raged through Santa Rosa in 2017. Presented in the round, with singers moving through the audience, it surrounds listeners in voices, fragments, rhythms and raw emotion.

Coleman, who lives in Sonoma County and grew up here, said the project began simply enough—with a need to face what happened.

“I wanted to make a piece about fires,” she said in a recent interview on The Drive 95.5 FM. “That just felt like a really important subject to all of our hearts, obviously.”

From there, the work grew organically, as many of her projects do. She began listening, gathering stories, and one of the most affecting came by chance.

She met a man working on a road crew near her home. They struck up a conversation. He mentioned that after the 2017 fire, he had served on a cleanup crew.

That chance encounter became “Purple Heart,” one of the project’s centerpiece sections. In it, the worker recounts arriving at a leveled home in Fountain Grove, where the owner asked if he might look for a lost military medal in the ashes.

“There’s nothing, right? Zero,” Coleman said. “And he’s like, well maybe it’s over here. And the worker goes and finds it.”

It’s the sort of story that reveals how disasters are experienced not only through parsing the catastrophe they bring, but through tiny recoveries: an object, a gesture, the proof that something endured.

Coleman’s method is unusual and deeply musical. She takes spoken interviews and listens for their hidden tonalities—the cadence, syntax and melody already embedded in everyday speech. Then she builds compositions around them, layering her own voice or, in this production, a live vocal ensemble.

“The whole syntax and the musicality and the rhythm of his voice really—if you start listening and breaking down any human speech and looping it, you’ll start to hear melodies,” she said. “You only have to loop it three, four, five times.”

The upcoming staging takes what was once multitracked by Coleman herself to the stage with live singers who had to learn intricate cues and precisely timed elements built around spoken narration—a process that required “a lot of real precision,” Coleman noted. 

Yet technical rigor is only half the challenge. The material itself is emotionally volatile. Another major section of the piece centers on a man who lost his parents in the Tubbs Fire. Coleman spoke candidly about the responsibility of shaping real grief into art.

“I take a great responsibility in illustrating these stories and in what I hope is an appropriate way,” she said. That meant making choices about restraint as much as intensity. She deliberately avoided using literal sirens in the work, for example.

“That seemed too literal,” she explained. “Too triggering.”

Instead, she created vocal sounds that evoke the “sirens” of Greek mythology. It’s a subtle distinction, but an important one.

“My intention is for DISPATCHES to be a contribution to a collective healing,” she said. “I hope that this performance will create a space that can ultimately help people process these events.”

Merlin Coleman’s ‘DISPATCHES from the CHARCOAL FOREST’ will be performed at 8pm, May 1 & 2, at Dresher Ensemble Studio, 2201 Poplar St., Oakland (where Coleman shares the bill with Amy X Neuburg), and May 8 & 9 at Milkbar, 241A South 1st St., Richmond. For tickets and more information, visit merlinman.com.

Amigas, Female Artists of Color Bring ‘Enfrascada’ to Petaluma 

Mercury Theater’s latest effort, Enfrascada, by Tanya Saracho, is an absorbing journey into the pluricultural experience of a group of Latine friends who are attempting to help one of their own through a dirty breakup with the use of hoodoo, Brujería and Santería. This rallying cry to friendship and magic, led by director (and frequent Bohemian contributor) Beulah Vega and an all-female cast and crew, runs in Petaluma through May 10.

Steady Alicia (Reilly Milton, with some strong moments of truthfulness and an open-hearted nature) has been shunted for another woman by her boyfriend of nine years, leaving her bereft but strangely numb, unable to process this major transition.

Her lively besties, Yesenia (spicy Lexus Fletcher, who has some of the best lines and the fullest characterization of the three main characters), and sweet, sensible group leader Carolina (Bianca Trentadue, with a lovely stage presence and natural mother hen qualities), suggest the use of the gifts of their aunties, who are practitioners of ancient magic, in order to help Alicia win back her man. 

Alicia quickly becomes consumed by these spells and tasks, while the audience gets a hefty dose of folk magic scenes that form the most engrossing parts of this story, aided by the remarkable work of Sky Hernandez-Simard as two of the magic practitioners. Her scenes were absolutely riveting and lent the show the momentum it needed to propel the women to their tender ending. A secondary character, eccentric cousin Lulu (played with subdued craftiness by Raysheina de Leon-Ruhs), acted as a hilarious chaos agent and helped scene transitions in a refreshing way.

The friend group, though believable and well written (they often speak Spanish, and while this reviewer is not fluent, she definitely understood all the nuances and inside jokes), didn’t resonate as fully at the opening night performance as they should once they’re into the heart of the run. Nerves seemed apparent, but all these actresses remained in the story without pushing for feeling, an admirable quality.

The many technical elements of the show were flawlessly executed by stage manager Kayla Hewson, and the use of lighting (Missy Weaver) and sound (Jess Johnson) added a lot of depth and mood to this very supernatural tale. Costumes by Serena Elize Flores showcased individual style and personality quite effectively.

If one is looking for a show outside of the white American theater-goer gaze, Enfrascada is there to fill that need.

Mercury Theater presents ‘Enfrascada’ through May 10 at 3333 Petaluma Blvd. N., Petaluma. Thur–Sat, 7:30pm; Sun, 2pm. $20–$35. 707.658.9019. mercurytheater.org.

The Mix: Double Couple Date Stirs up Some Complicated Implications

The foursome didn’t really come in hot. And they weren’t really coming in happy either. It was odd from the get-go. For me, and eventually for them too.

We see all kinds of groupings from behind the bar. Boys’ nights out, girls’ nights out, date nights; one really gets a bird’s eye view of the entire range of human romantic interactions. This one appeared to be two sets of friends out on the town. It was an easy assumption to make. And it was not the correct one.

They found four barstools and sat down just as one might expect. Boy, girl, boy, girl. Two espresso martinis, and two craft draft beers. It was so normal as to be almost mundane, until I set the drinks down.

Instead of the beers going to the gentlemen, and the drinks going to the ladies, it was a drink for one of the men, a drink for one of the women, and the same breakdown for the beers.

Typically, when one gets the double couple date night sitting at the bar, either the men are better friends or the women are. This grouping was unusual, because it appeared that the man and woman in the middle were the better friends, and they weren’t a couple.

Bartenders sometimes get a bad rap for being judgmental. And we are, about things that really matter. Things like one’s level of intoxication or their legal age. Things most bartenders could care less about are one’s relationship status and their opinion on shaking vs. stirring.

Just about then, a song came on the overhead speakers that elicited squeals from the couple in the middle.

“Let’s dance,” said the inner woman.

Which was a weird thing to say in a place that doesn’t have a dance floor.

Nonetheless, the inner couple got up and danced. It was all fun and games. And in the bar business, that’s usually pretty good. Until it isn’t.

“You guys seem like you’re really having fun,” said outside-man, when the dancers sat down.

“Well, you never dance,” said inside-woman. “And he does.”

A similar conversation was happening between outside-woman and inside-man.

It reminded me of the internecine workplace affair. The people involved always think they are being discreet. The funny thing is that everyone else always knows.

“Do you think they are having an affair?” outside-woman eventually asked outside-man, as their respective spouses bumped and ground.

“I’m not sure anymore,” he answered.

“Would you two like something else to drink?” I interjected, as bartenders so often do.

They both looked up at me.

“What do you think?” the outside-woman asked me.

“What do you mean?” I asked, knowing full well what she meant.

“Do you think those two are having an affair?” she said, pointing at the woman doing a backbend in the aisle while a husband frontbended over her.

“Do I think they are?” I queried back.

“Yes, do you think they are?” repeated the outer man, exasperated by the parsing.

“No, I don’t think that they are,” I said, answering honestly.

And when I say honestly, I mean honestly, because I didn’t think that they were having an affair. I knew it. Which is altogether different. Because while I might not have known the non-couple in front of me, I was certainly familiar with the other one bumping and grinding.

Leaving me with these thoughts:

• Be sure to ask the right questions; that way, one will always get the right answers.

• Most bartenders are not judgmental. But they aren’t blind either.

• “Discretion is the better part of valor,” decried the coward Falstaff in Shakespeare’s Henry IV.

• The old joke goes: “Be nice to the bartender because we know your wife. And your girlfriend too.” To which I might now add, “We also know your wife’s boyfriend and his wife as well.” Just saying.

Jeff Burkhart hosts ‘The Barfly Podcast.’ More at jeffburkhart.net.

Rebecca Fein, Director of Verity, the County’s Only Rape Crisis, Trauma and Healing Center

A gentle caution to my readers. This edition centers on a painfully charged topic: sexual assault in our communty.

Sexual assault covers a range continuum of criminal acts. 

Its effect, therefore, is varied and can include shock, acute stress disorder, hypervigilance, PTSD fear triggers, avoidance, social withdrawal, numbness, loss of joy, sleep disruption, major depression, substance abuse, intimacy issues, lowered self-esteem and suicidal ideation.

Per RAINN—the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network—citing the Centers for Disease Control: Nearly 1 in 4 men and 1 in 2 women have experienced unwanted sexual contact in their lifetime.

Here, I remind myself to breathe.

The repercussions of sexual assault are here everywhere. Whether we know it or not, we confront them every day. They are in our every encounter.

I write with the delicate intention to make text of this ever-present subtext—and to bring community attention to Verity, Sonoma County’s sole rape crisis, trauma and healing center. 

Established in 1974, Verity offers free confidential services to survivors of sexual assault and human trafficking. Their work spans intervention, healing and prevention. In this time, it is led by the able Rebecca Fein.

Cincinnatus Hibbard: Rebecca, what would you like to highlight?

Rebecca Fein: People don’t know how prevalent sexual assault and human trafficking are in our community, particularly human trafficking.

Your 2024 impact report shows intervention for 122 trafficking survivors. What factors give rise to trafficking in the North Bay?

Proximity to the City. The 101 corridor. High tourism associated with alcohol, cannabis and gambling. Labor trafficking associated with agriculture. Wealth. People are trafficked from outside the region, but also from within. We’re currently developing a marketing campaign addressing signs of exploitation among children—grooming via social media—educating both young people and the adults around them.

I understand Verity also does preventative work in schools with age-appropriate education at elementary, middle and high school levels. Tell me about your healing programs.

We partner with On the Margins to offer free of cost, one-to-one therapy and support groups. It is bicultural and bilingual.

Each person’s situations and needs are unique to them. We respond to them. All our services are survivor centered and survivor led. We provide the information and will support them along whatever path they choose to take. Sexual assault is inherently an experience that removes one’s autonomy.

Tell me about your funding. 

Funding is a rollercoaster. We are 70–80% reliant on state grants, themselves funded by federal grants. Every year, we prepare for cuts. We are critically challenged right now. Get involved—support survivors through donations of your time or funds. Volunteers are a huge piece of what we do.

The question that really brought me to you is hard to calculate. I invite you to speculate: What effect has the election of a president with 28 public accusations of sexual assault—actively suppressing the Epstein files—had on the culture of rape in America?

Survivors are silenced. And we have noticed an emboldening of perpetrators, and less shame. I think of serially-accused former Windsor Mayor Dominic Foppoli announcing another run for office.

Could you give some general advice about how to support survivors we know?

We released a blog post very recently regarding the case surrounding Soft Medicine Sanctuary in Sebastopol that addresses how to support survivors.

First and foremost, believe them. Allow them to speak—to the degree they are ready and able. It’s different for different people, but the experience of retelling the story can be itself traumatic.

Learn more at ourverity.org. Verity’s 24/7 support and crisis line: 707.545.7273. The incident need not be recent.

Karen Francis DeGolia Rediscovers Her Vineyard Calling

The story of Limerick Lane Cellars is anything but simple or expected. But through the twists and turns of the label’s evolution, the fact remains that this is a place where a true old-vine vineyard is celebrated. 

Preserved, protected and revered, this estate that produces award-winning wine is a true landmark in the Northeast corner of Sonoma County’s Russian River Valley.

Owner Karen Francis DeGolia’s connection to Limerick Lane began in the early 1990s, when she was engaged to founder and winemaker Tom Collins as the estate came to life. She was deeply involved in the ranch during those formative years, witnessing the completion of the winery and its iconic bottle-shaped pool in 1993. When Collins passed away unexpectedly, DeGolia departed and channeled her energy into a remarkable corporate career.

Armed with a Dartmouth economics degree and a Harvard MBA, she rose through the ranks of the automotive world, serving as general manager of GM’s Oldsmobile division and later as a VP at Ford Motor Company, one of the youngest women to reach such heights in the industry.

DeGolia returned to Limerick Lane briefly in 2002, working harvest and pouring in the tasting room, but a CEO opportunity at an advertising agency soon pulled her away again. This time, she stayed connected to the area by purchasing the neighboring Ricci Vineyard, cementing her role as a grower and later a board member at Copia, The American Center for Food, Wine, and the Arts.

In 2021, she and her husband, Rick DeGolia, acquired the 12-acre Cypress Ridge Vineyards on Limerick Lane. Then a chance lunch with a neighbor revealed that Limerick Lane Cellars was seeking a new owner. The full circle decision was easy.

Nearly 30 years after first walking those vine rows, Karen DeGolia became the owner of Limerick Lane Cellars. The estate now spans 53 acres in the heart of the Russian River Valley, with winemaker Chris Pittenger crafting wine from these special old vines.

Amber Turpin: How did you get into this work?

Karen Francis DeGolia: Fate.

Did you ever have an ‘aha’ moment with a certain beverage? If so, tell us about it.

Understanding the profound history of 100-plus-year-old zinfandel vines.

What is your favorite thing to drink at home?

Limerick Lane Marquis.

Where do you like to go out for a drink?

Anyplace with an ocean view.

If you were stuck on a desert island, what would you want to be drinking?

Limerick Lane Rose.

Limerick Lane Cellars, 1023 Limerick Ln., Healdsburg, 707.433.9211, limericklanewines.com.

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