Dear Gillian: Women Invited to Send Their Sex Fantasies

Hey ladies, Gillian Anderson, the actor made famous by her roles in the television shows The X-Files and Sex Education, wants to hear what gets you off.

If that sentence makes readers uncomfortable, it might help to look back in the history of women talking about sex.

Fifty years ago, a groundbreaking book revealed the rich erotic imagination of women. Filled with reports of women sharing their sexual fantasies in their own words, Nancy Friday’s My Secret Garden gave a forum to real women to open up to the world on what they never were able to talk about. Until its publication, no forum existed for women to speak freely on the subject, and internalized social guilt prevented them even from sharing privately.

The landmark work opened up American culture to the voices of women in a way that never existed before. Reading their own secret desires reflected back to them, the book helped millions to recognize the guilt and shame tied to those dirty fantasies they were not “supposed” to have.

Now, in a time when many women feel under legal and social attack from conservative forces—see the outrage in response to the Missouri State Legislature’s new dress code rules requiring female legislators and staff to wear blazers—it might be more important than it has been in years to encourage women to speak up. Anderson is betting on it.

During the month of February, the UK-based British-American actor has put out a call for women around the world to send her their fantasies. The selected submissions will be published by Bloomsbury Publishing as a response to the anniversary of Friday’s book. Anderson wants to know how female fantasies have changed, how women feel about sharing and what can be learned from this.

Female readers are encouraged to answer this call. Too many trends today seek to shut down voices that do not come from straight white men in power. Here is a chance for women to take some of that power back, together.

Submit your fantasy at DearGillian.com.

Your Letters, Feb. 8

Fentanyl Fear

Thank you to those who are going out of their way to educate people on fentanyl and share their loss because of it. I believe it can help many young people make a smart decision to never try any of these drugs. If we could put these informative words on billboards and in commercials, that could also help.

For a cause like this, I would be willing to donate to help pay for expenses. I’m not making an offer, but if such a thing exists, I would donate on a monthly basis.

It scares me because it’s too close to home, and I worry about my nephew, nieces and son, who can be naive sometimes. They don’t like to hear me educating them about it. But maybe other ways such as this could make a difference.

Vanessa Sanchez

Santa Rosa

Park vs. Profits

Thank you for continuing to expose the environmental destruction caused by ranching. If this can be allowed to happen in a national park, where profits of the dairy and meat industry take precedence over wildlife and the environment, imagine how much worse it is everywhere else.

Lia Wilbourn

Marin County

Whole Lotta Love: Polyamory Takes Off

Polyamory is not swinging, swapping or good old fashioned threesomes driven by greedy men. At least not always.

Defined by Polyweekly.com as “having multiple long-term, loving relationships with the full knowledge and consent of all parties involved,” true polyamory can take about as many forms as there are practitioners of the lifestyle.

Very often, these arrangements are initiated by female partners in monogamous relationships.

“I have seen many straight couples open their relationship at the woman’s initiative,” said Diane Gleim, a certified sex therapist (CST) based in Sonoma County. “[The common] assumption is that it’s mostly men who seek polyamory because they want multiple sexual partners. There is research that shows that monogamous, heterosexual women actually desire novel sex and novel sexual partners more than heterosexual, monogamous men.” Several other counselors interviewed agreed.

Even when women are not the instigators, they often become champions of the way of life.

“In a heterosexual relationship, if a man brings the idea of polyamory to an initially wary partner, it is very common after a few months for the woman to actually find she thrives in non-monogamy, only for the man to feel threatened and want to close the relationship back up again,” said Emily Sotelo Matlack, an educator with Multiamory.com. Matlack, a past participant in polyamory, is now in a monogamous relationship “because it was a better fit for me and my partner.”

“Gay communities also have practiced and accepted many forms of non-monogamy and eschewed the social constructs of traditional heterosexual partnerships for decades,” added Matlack. “It is difficult to find polyamorous communities today where there aren’t at least some, if not a majority, of queer members.” The honesty and intention that comes with polyamory can help to create a chosen family, which theoretically works as a buffer against the constant repression and threat of violence faced by LGBTQIA+ folks.

Polyamorous Heart

One leader in the “poly” scene is Phoebe Philips of the blog Polyammering, a kinkster who inadvertently found herself as a kind of advice columnist to those curious about and new to polyamory. “It is ironic since I’m not polyamorous,” said Philips, who is monogamous in a committed relationship with a poly man.

Phillip’s introduction to polyamory came from a place of the heart.

“Nine years ago, my husband passed away. When I started dating again, the first person I met that was interested in me was polyamorous. I was like, this is great because this person is not going to be jealous of the fact that I still have feelings for [my late husband],” said Phillips in a Zoom interview, visibly moved by the recollection. “I was processing this loss, [but was ready] to have a connection with somebody else.”

Doing the Work

Like any relationship, a polyamorous lifestyle has its challenges as well as its rewards.

“One of the most frequent things I see partners struggle with, especially when they are new to ethical non-monogamy, is their own internalized monogamy,” said North Bay therapist Ayala Kalisher, who specializes in polyamory. “There is internalized monogamy programming saying, ‘I need to downplay my new connection to protect my initial partner’s feelings.’”

When the depth of feelings for a new partner is revealed, the downplaying is “likely to lead to hurt caused by the dishonesty more than the new connection and can be confusing and harmful for everyone involved,” said Kalisher.

Advocates of polyamory agree that there is a lot of work required in coming to consensus about how a poly relationship or relationships are formed.

“Being polyamorous forces you to do that work, because you are going to be bumping up against challenging emotions often, as well as learning to rewire deeply ingrained [monogamy centered narratives] from our media, our society and our families of origin,” said Matlack.

Like with so many things in life, the work is part of the benefit.

The poly promoting non-profit Loving More writes on its website: “For many, the necessary level of honesty, self-knowledge, and sensitivity to their partners’ deepest desires brings more intimacy than they ever experienced in monogamy.”

Additionally, polyamory necessarily includes freedom beyond just other sexual partners. Ownership of one’s own life within a relationship supports personal space and safety.

“A monogamous, healthy relationship requires that your partner not be your everything. You should have friends, interests and hobbies outside of your partner and what you do with them,” writes the poly education site, Polyamory for Us, of which Phillips is an administrator. “Any partner that insists that you should have no other friends or interests? That is [a] red flag that they’re isolating and abusive.”

That is not to say that polyamory doesn’t have its risks. Research indicating failure rates as high as 92% for “open marriages” are cited around the web, although the study is hard to track down.

“Polyamory does not create problems,” responded Phillips. “It exposes the problems that were already there. So, if you have not had great communication with each other, polyamory is going to make that loud and clear. If there was already distrust in the relationship, it’s going to get amplified.”

“There is so much to gain from polyamory, but I think an increased sense of autonomy and self is one of the most amazing parts of getting to be a part of this relationship structure,” said Matlack. “It can be scary at first to be alone on a Saturday night while your partner is out on a hot date, but after some time, you will relish the opportunity to get to have some quality time to yourself.”

Getting Started

According to Santa Rosa CST Adrian Scharfetter, couples usually start with “a conversation about the current state of one’s relationship and why this dynamic is being explored. Non-monogamy and all the flavors of this experience is often seen as an addition to, or enhancement of, a well-established relationship.”

“The next phase the couple really needs to dig into is how they wish such an arrangement to look like? Swinging, group sex, play dates, ‘monogamish,’ polyamory, solo polyamory, etc.,” added Scharfetter.

“Take it slow, take it easy. Go on tea or coffee day dates. Enjoy being with people without expectation just to see how it feels,” said Scharfetter. “Consent is the core foundation to this exploration, for all parties involved.”

“I often ask when I interview people,” said Phillips, “‘OK, you go back in time and tell your younger self, your baby polyamory-self, some advice. What do you tell them?’ The overwhelming majority of people say, ‘I would tell them to slow down and talk more, and read more and learn more before I started dating.’”

Free Will Astrology, Week of Feb. 8

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ARIES (March 21-April 19): During my quest for advice that might be helpful to your love life, I plucked these words of wisdom from author Sam Kean: “Books about relationship talk about how to ‘get’ the love you need, how to ‘keep’ love, and so on. But the right question to ask is, ‘How do I become a more loving human being?'” In other words, Aries, here’s a prime way to enhance your love life: Be less focused on what others can give you and more focused on what you can give to others. Amazingly, that’s likely to bring you all the love you want.

TAURUS (April 20-May 20): You have the potential to become even more skilled at the arts of kissing and cuddling and boinking than you already are. How? Here are some possibilities. 1. Explore fun experiments that will transcend your reliable old approaches to kissing and cuddling and boinking. 2. Read books to open your mind. I like Margot Anand’s The New Art of Sexual Ecstasy. 3. Ask your partner(s) to teach you everything about what turns them on. 4. Invite your subconscious mind to give you dreams at night that involve kissing and cuddling and boinking. 5. Ask your lover(s) to laugh and play and joke as you kiss and cuddle and boink.

GEMINI (May 21-June 20): You are an Italian wolf searching for food in the Apennine Mountains. You’re a red-crowned crane nesting in a wetland in the Eastern Hokkaido region of Japan. You’re an olive tree thriving in a salt marsh in southern France, and you’re a painted turtle basking in a pool of sunlight on a beach adjoining Lake Michigan. And much, much more. What I’m trying to tell you, Gemini, is that your capacity to empathize is extra strong right now. Your smart heart should be so curious and open that you will naturally feel an instinctual bond with many life forms, including a wide array of interesting humans. If you’re brave, you will allow your mind to expand to experience telepathic powers. You will have an unprecedented knack for connecting with simpatico souls.

CANCER (June 21-July 22): My Cancerian friend, Juma, says, “We have two choices at all times: creation or destruction. Love creates and everything else destroys.” Do you agree? She’s not just talking about romantic love, but rather love in all forms, from the urge to help a friend, to the longing to seek justice for the dispossessed, to the compassion we feel for our descendants. During the next three weeks, your assignment is to explore every nuance of love as you experiment with the following hypothesis: To create the most interesting and creative life for yourself, put love at the heart of everything you do.

LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): I hope you get ample chances to enjoy deep soul kisses in the coming weeks. Not just perfunctory lip-to-lip smooches and pecks on the cheeks, but full-on intimate sensual exchanges. Why do I recommend this? How could the planetary positions be interpreted to encourage a specific expression of romantic feeling? I’ll tell you, Leo: The heavenly omens suggest you will benefit from exploring the frontiers of wild affection. You need the extra sweet, intensely personal communion that comes best from the uninhibited mouth-to-mouth form of tender sharing. Here’s what Leo poet Diane di Prima said: “There are as many kinds of kisses as there are people on Earth, as there are permutations and combinations of those people. No two people kiss alike—no two people f*ck alike—but somehow the kiss is more personal, more individualized than the f*ck.”

VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Borrowing the words of poet Oriah from her book, The Dance: Moving to the Deep Rhythms of Your Life, I’ve prepared a love note for you to use as your own this Valentine season. Feel free to give these words to the person whose destiny needs to be woven more closely together with yours. Oriah writes, “Don’t tell me how wonderful things will be someday. Show me you can risk being at peace with the way things are right now. Show me how you follow your deepest desires, spiraling down into the ache within the ache. Take me to the places on the earth that teach you how to dance, the places where you can risk letting the world break your heart.”

LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Libra author Walter Lippman wrote, “The emotion of love is not self-sustaining; it endures only when lovers love many things together, and not merely each other.” That’s great advice for you during the coming months. I suggest that you and your allies—not just your romantic partners, but also your close companions—come up with collaborative projects that inspire you to love many things together. Have fun exploring and researching subjects that excite and awaken and enrich both of you.

SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Scorpio writer Paul Valéry wrote, “It would be impossible to love anyone or anything one knew completely. Love is directed towards what lies hidden in its object.” My challenge to you, Scorpio, is to test this hypothesis. Do what you can to gain more in-depth knowledge of the people and animals and things you love. Uncover at least some of what’s hidden. All the while, monitor yourself to determine how your research affects your affection and care. Contrary to what Valéry said, I’m guessing this will enhance and exalt your love.

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): In his book, Unapologetically You, motivational speaker Steve Maraboli writes, “I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.” That’s always good advice, but I believe it should be your inspirational axiom in the coming weeks. More than ever, you now have the potential to forever transform your approach to relationships. You can shift away from wanting your allies to be different from what they are and make a strong push to love them just as they are.

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): I analyzed the astrological omens. Then I scoured the internet, browsed through 22 books of love poetry and summoned memories of my best experiences of intimacy. These exhaustive efforts inspired me to find the words of wisdom that are most important for you to hear right now. They are from poet Rainer Maria Rilke (translated by Stephen Mitchell): “For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been entrusted to us, the ultimate task, the final test and proof, the work for which all other work is merely preparation.”

AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): To get the most out of upcoming opportunities for intimacy, intensify your attunement to and reverence for your emotions. Why? As quick and clever as your mind can be, sometimes it neglects to thoroughly check in with your heart. And I want your heart to be wildly available when you get ripe chances to open up and deepen your alliances. Study these words from psychologist Carl Jung: “We should not pretend to understand the world only by the intellect; we apprehend it just as much by feeling. Therefore, the judgment of the intellect is, at best, only the half of truth, and must, if it be honest, also come to an understanding of its inadequacy.”

PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): “In love there are no vacations. Love has to be lived fully with its boredom and all that.” Author and filmmaker Marguerite Duras made that observation, and now I convey it to you—just in time for a phase of your astrological cycle when boredom and apathy could and should evolve into renewed interest and revitalized passion. But there is a caveat: If you want the interest and passion to rise and surge, you will have to face the boredom and apathy; you must accept them as genuine aspects of your relationship; you will have to cultivate an amused tolerance of them. Only then will they burst in full glory into renewed interest and revitalized passion.

Big Chicken Week: HenHouse’s labors of love

Fresh beer is best—that’s the idea behind the upcoming celebratory Big Chicken week at the North Bay-based HenHouse Brewing Company.

The concept of Big Chicken week is simple: Once a year, the HenHouse crew brews a crisp and hoppy Double IPA (DIPA), then packages, delivers and fills customers’ glasses across the Bay Area all in the same day.

This much-anticipated annual beer release has been a HenHouse tradition since 2016, and following their “zero-day IPA” policy, will bring the beer from their brewery to local taps in less than a day. Big Chicken 2023 is taking place through Feb. 12, and the local brewery’s employees have been working and will continue to work tirelessly to distribute their specially-made Big Chicken brew that Bay Area beer enthusiasts won’t want to miss.

“Big Chicken is our big celebration of our passion project: fresh IPA in February,” explained Zach Kelly, brewmaster at HenHouse Brewing Company. “It’s going to be some of the freshest beer you can get in Northern California. It’s going to be packaged the day of and will be the freshest beer across the South Bay, North Bay, up all the way up in parts of Oregon!”

Kelly has spent the past 13 years learning to brew and has been brewmaster at HenHouse Brewing Company for over a year. He got his start in the beer industry when a friend got him a job cleaning kegs after Kelly’s Blockbuster job fell through (for obvious reasons). Since then, Kelly has committed himself to the fine craft of beer brewing and is excited to share his most recent creation and his reasoning behind fresh beer’s superiority:

“You have to understand that, in fermentation, there are all these volatile compounds that have to do with aroma and flavor, and these are things that’ll degrade with time, so a six-month-old beer won’t taste the same as a day-old beer,” explained Kelly. “In a well-crafted beer that’s meant to age, you’ll get nice toasty notes. But with an IPA, you won’t get that big blast of aroma—instead, you’ll get more of a stale cardboard, movie theater butter or even creamed corn flavor that can come from malt.”

Kelly and his crew began working on the recipe for 2023’s Big Chicken brew in November, at which time they began hashing everything out with their growers and suppliers. The first batches began brewing on Jan. 11, about four weeks ago, in order to make a higher alcohol content beer that is allowed to ferment slightly longer, thus making a deceptively drinkable 10% alcohol content beer. This year’s batch is, according to Kelly, more of a West Coast IPA-style beer, meaning the yeast is less hazy and a little more neutral tasting in order to bring out the fruitier flavor profile.

This year’s Big Chicken brew was made with careful consideration to the ingredients and their sources. The barley was sourced from Petaluma’s own Crane Ranch, and after a quick trip to Alameda and back for malting, became a main ingredient in the 2023 Big Chicken beer. According to the HenHouse Brewing Company website, the hops used were “Mosaic hops from Loftus Ranches, Simcoe hops from Coleman Agriculture, Cascade hops from Green Acre Farms and Centennial hops from our old friends at Crosby Hop Farm.”

“Especially with a brew that’s so big and has so much malt, and since malt is inherently sweet, we like using a lot of hops in the blend to really counteract that sweetness,” explained Kelly. “So, you have to think about how to take these locally-grown hops from Petaluma, especially since they’re really local and grown in a single field. It’s less blended and has a singular taste you want to balance out with enough of and the right kinds of hops.”

Another element to HenHouse and the Big Chicken DIPA, aside from the locally-sourced ingredients and freshness, is its carbon footprint (or lack thereof). While the process of fermentation naturally produces CO2, HenHouse is one of only a handful of breweries in the nation that utilizes a form of CO2 reclamation in their brewing process. Rather than releasing the CO2 back into the atmosphere, HenHouse captures the gas and uses it, instead, to re-carbonate the beer. This significantly reduces the carbon waste generated in the brewing process.

“We’ve pushed really hard to contextualize and offset our carbon emissions, and we’re about to use 30% less CO2, making a more sustainable beer and really thinking about our relationship with our local environment and community,” explained Kelly.

The reclaimed CO2 also ties into the “fresh is best” idea, as there are many flavor repercussions that occur as beer ages and carbon dioxide falls flat—this can affect the crisp bite and mouthfeel of a beer, as it can and will degrade over time.

Though the historical origin of IPA is rooted in preservation, and the excess use of hops was primarily invented as a method of preserving beer for long oversea voyages, the modern IPA is different from its predecessors.

“What beer is now vs. what beer was then is far removed,” said Kelly. “The flavors are an entirely different blend. And while hops are a preservative, they’re also extremely prone to oxidation. So they’ll keep the beer from going bad or sour, but they’ll also create more of those cardboard flavors in the process.”

Fresh Big Chicken DIPA will be available in select locations across the Bay Area, including HenHouse Brewing Company Palace of Barrels at 1333 N. Mcdowell Blvd. in Petaluma, Santa Rosa Brewery Tasting Room at 322 Bellevue Ave. and Fairfax West County Pub at 765 Center Blvd. Cans of Big Chicken will be available in incredibly limited stock at the Santa Rosa and Petaluma locations only.

“[Big Chicken] is a little bit of a love letter to our production staff,” concluded Kelly. “We’re able to do something new with it every day, every year, and we just want to make something that our crew is excited about and wants to develop. I think that shows in our final product, and everyone is stoked on it. We’re going to buy our staff lots of donuts and coffee and go in early on Monday. From start to finish, everybody bought in and was really excited to do this year’s Big Chicken brew—it really is a labor of love.”

For more information and to see other restaurants and bars set to carry Big Chicken DIPA, check out the HenHouse Brewing Company website at henhousebrewing.com.

‘Sidekicked’ Play Finds Lucy’s ‘Ethel’ Playing Second Banana

Sonoma Arts Live brings a little retro-television to the Rotary Stage in Sonoma with Sidekicked, a one-woman show about actress Vivian Vance. Vance is best known as America’s favorite TV neighbor, Ethel Mertz, a character she played for nine seasons alongside Lucille Ball. The Michael Ross-directed show runs in Sonoma through Feb. 19.

It’s 1960 and the final episode of The Lucy-Desi Comedy Hour (the successor series to the original I Love Lucy) is about to be filmed. Tensions are high at the studio. Lucy and Desi are only speaking to each other through intermediaries (Ball filed for divorce from Arnaz the next day), and Vivian Vance (Libby Oberlin) is dealing with the realization that her love/hate relationship with the character of Ethel Mertz might still get the best of her. She has asked her analyst to stop by her dressing room for some support to get her through the day’s shoot, and she has a lot to say.

That’s the somewhat-hackneyed premise that playwright Kim Powers uses to spin his fan-inspired autobiographical tale of the life and times of Vance. From her upbringing in a strictly religious family with a dismissive mother who looked down on her life and career choices, through a series of failed marriages and a particularly abusive husband, the audience gets to know lesser-known aspects of Vance’s life, including her battle with mental illness and her willingness to speak publicly about it.

Viewers of Sidekicked also get the better-known details of Vance’s time on I Love Lucy—Lucy’s desire to “frump her up” and the mutual hatred shared between her and co-star William Frawley. There’s also plenty of “Do you remember the episode when…?” points of reference for the audience to wax nostalgic, a markedly lazy bit of scriptwriting.

Oberlin does her best with the paint-by-numbers script, particularly when she’s mimicking the other cast members of the show. While she possesses little physical or vocal resemblance to Vance herself, Oberlin does fully commit to the character. By the end of the show’s 95 minutes (including intermission), one should gain an appreciation for Vance beyond her work as Ethel Mertz, at least pre-1960. While her career reached its apex with I Love Lucy, Vance apparently found personal happiness later in life.

The show contains little for folks unfamiliar with the work of Vivian Vance. Fortunately, that only leaves a potential audience in the millions.

‘Sidekicked’ runs through Feb. 19 on the Rotary Stage at Andrews Hall in the Sonoma Community Center, 276 E. Napa St., Sonoma. Thurs-Sat, 7:30pm; Sun, 2pm, $25–$42. 707.484.4874. sonomaartslive.org.

Local Brewery Finds: ‘Brew HaHa’ host Herlinda Heras names some faves

Herlinda Heras is the co-host of the radio show Brew Ha Ha on KSRO and judges at beer competitions nationally and around the world. She was asked about her favorite lesser known local breweries and beers and was happy to share.

“Everyone knows and loves Russian River Valley Brewery and Lagunitas, including me. Everyone also normally goes straight for the IPA, when they’re in California,” says Heras. “I like to encourage people to be adventurous, try other kinds of beer, and visit some smaller, off the beaten path breweries, in addition to the bigger and/or better known breweries.”

Moonlight Brewing
3350 Coffey Ln., Suites A & D, Santa Rosa. moonlightbrewing.com


“Moonlight doesn’t just offer great beer—they offer a great experience. The owner, Brian Hunt, is a crazy, funny, genius kind of guy, and the people that work here also really know their stuff,” says Heras. “When you come to Moonlight, you know you’re always going to drink something new, learn something new, etc. The beer selection is diverse—from black lagers to Czech style dark lagers and pilsners to rice lager and of course… pale ales.”

A couple of favorites include Death and Taxes, a light-bodied black ale with iced coffee like flavors, and Working for Tips, an ale that is fermented with redwood branches instead of hops.

Cuver Brewing

7704 Bell Rd #A, Windsor. cuverbrewing.com

“This is the only Belgian-owned brewery making Belgian style beers, in the U.S.! What’s not to love?” says Heras. “This place is family-owned. When you come here, you’re going to see a family member behind the bar, which I love. And the beers are great. This is a place you come to drink something different, not for IPA. Saison style ales, pilsners, etc… A few of my favorite Cuver beers include the Pepperwood Saison ale, a traditional Belgian style farmhouse ale; the Bell Road Pils, a classic pilsner style beer; and the Dobbel, a dark ale for malt lovers.”

Old Caz Beer

5625 State Farm Dr. #17, Rohnert Park. oldcaz.com

“I love that everything at Old Caz is used or repurposed,” Heras shares. “These guys find free stuff, fix it up or adapt it, and use it. The beer here is also fantastic, and they’ve got an interesting lineup, including a Mexican amber ale, Lavender Radler—a beer-lemonade blend—and a Chocaroon, which literally tastes like a chocolate macaroon, and a West Coast IPA, and some nice sour beers.”

Old Possum

357 Sutton Pl., Santa Rosa. oldpossumbrewing.com

Owner and brewer Sandro Tamburin hails from northern Italy and has a lengthy background in winemaking. “Who has better taste than Italians? Sandro’s palate and his precision as a brewer are unparalleled,” says Heras. “Everything Sandro makes is small batch, and his beers are really clean and fresh. A few of my favorites here include the summer IPA, Interstellar Stout, Sonoma Lager and Garibaldi.”

Civilization Brewing Company
104 Mendocino Ave., Santa Rosa. restaurantji.com/ca/santa-rosa/civilization-brewing


Opened this past December, Civilization Brewing’s taproom is a nice addition to downtown Santa Rosa.

“These guys are making great beer and offering something unique. The taproom has a really cool ’70s vibe. They’ve been doing vintage vinyl night every Friday with a different theme, which I love,” says Heras. “They also have a new multi-arcade and are doing retro game night on Wednesday night.”

Heras’ favorite beers include the Olompali California lager, coffee Porter and sweet fire habanero-apricot Gose.

Lions in the Living Room, Ideas in the Lounge

Culture Crush, Week of Feb. 8

Novato

Trash to Treasures

There’s the saying—“one man’s trash is another man’s supplementary income.” For those who wish to get in on the free market economy, there’s the upcoming Spring “Trash to Treasures” Flea Market in Novato. Though the market itself doesn’t occur until March 18, applications to sell secondhand items via a booth rental at Novato’s Margaret Todd Senior Center have commenced on a first-come, first-served basis. Applications can be downloaded at bit.ly/trash-treasures and returned to the center at 1560 Hill Rd. This indoor community market averages more than 200 shoppers and is held rain or shine. For more information, including event details, call 415-899-8290 or visit novatofun.org.

Santa Rosa

Smart Cycling Classes

With National Bike Month looming just over the horizon this May, local wheels are already turning when it comes to bicycle safety. The Sonoma County Bicycle Coalition (SCBC) offers an informative, safety-oriented Smart Cycling class from 9am to 1pm, Saturday, Feb. 11 at its parking lot, located at 750 Mendocino Ave., Santa Rosa. From lane positioning to gear ratios, traffic laws and riding etiquette, nationally certified instructors will provide two hours of class instruction and two hours of on-bike instruction, including skill drills and an instructional bike ride to identify and avoid potential hazards. A bike in good mechanical condition and a properly fitted helmet are required to participate. For more information or to sign up, visit bikesonoma.org/our-work/traffic-skills-101.

Healdsburg

Lion in the Living Room

Bushtracks Expeditions CEO David Tett relays the story of the “five brothers”—lions that fight to survive in the harsh desert landscape of the Namib—in his talk, “The Lions of The Namib and Gorillas of Central Africa: The Power of Sustainable Travel.” Also covered are the remote rainforests in the Congo and Central Africa, home to lowland gorillas, chimps and pink forest elephants, as well as safari camps and robust micro-economies that contribute to protecting millions of acres of wildlands and support traditional communities. The “living room” style presentation begins at 5:30pm, Wednesday, Feb. 15 in the Fireplace Lounge of CraftWork, 445 Center St., Healdsburg. Wine and eats will be provided by Journeyman Wines and Journeyman Meat Company, respectively. Tickets are $40 ($15 for CraftWork members) and are available online at craftworkhbg.com/crafted-conversations.

Petaluma

Art & Tech

The Petaluma Arts Center’s Idea Lounge is ”a series of unexpected conversational pairings” in which one speaker hails from the arts and the other does not. The events last one hour, with each speaker presenting for 20 minutes and then the audience ferreting out the connective threads between two seemingly disparate topics. The series returns this month with Danielle Stroble, founder of Keller Street CoWork, whose talk, “Human Centered: Community, Culture & Coworking,” is paired with artist Gary McKinnon’s talk, “Art and Technology: Tools of the Trade.” The chat begins at 7pm, Wednesday, Feb. 22 and is hosted by Barber Lee Spirits, 120 Washington St., Petaluma. Tickets are $15 ($12 for arts center members) and are available at bit.ly/idea-lounge.

— Daedalus Howell, editor

Ranches Poisoning Point Reyes National Seashore with Manure

January storms lashed a hilltop cattle feedlot at J Ranch in Point Reyes National Seashore. Tons of E. coli, ammonia, and nitrogen laden manure liquified and flooded downhill across a popular hiking trail, splashing into Kehoe Creek, which drains into the Pacific Ocean.

A hiker photographed the catastrophe and emailed the evidence to Park Superintendent, Craig Kenkel, and regional Water Quality Control Board manager, Xavier Fernandez.

Point Reyes National Seashore Kehoe Creek manure flow - Peter Byrne
In January, a hiker spotted—and reported—liquified manure flowing into Kehoe Creek. Photo by Woody Elliot
Point Reyes National Seashore Kehoe Ranch feedlot manure - Peter Byrne
Uncontained manure is on display at a Kehoe Ranch cattle feedlot. Photo by Peter Byrne

The Park Service ordered J Ranch lessees, Tim, Tom and Mike Kehoe to limit the damage. The ranchers staked a dozen burlap tubes stuffed with straw across gullies cut by the manured storm waters. In an email, Fernandez characterized the tubes as “erosion and sediment control measures.”

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J Ranch lessees were ordered to install straw wattles after manure flowed into a nearby creek during January rainstorms. Photo by Peter Byrne

Neither Fernandez, Kenkel, nor the ranchers commented on why the mass of manure abutting a cow feeding trough was allowed to be uncontained. Seashore ranch leases and environmental regulations prohibit pollution of waterways from agricultural activities.

Fernandez initially told this newspaper, “The Park Service conducted their first week of bacteria samples during this time, and there were no indications that excess sediment or manure was directly discharged to [Kehoe] creek.” Responding to a request for the water testing data, Fernandez replied, “I have a correction to make. We do not have data from the Park Service from the monitoring that they conducted during storms in January.”

Kenkel did not respond to requests for the testing data.

Manure Thickens, Seals Die

Recent water quality tests sponsored by Turtle Island Restoration Network reveal life-harming levels of fecal bacteria and other agricultural waste in Kehoe Creek and throughout the park. Ten miles south of Kehoe Creek, these tests registered excessive concentrations of life-harming bacteria, ammonia, nitrogen and phosphorus in waters streaming  through B Ranch cow pastures onto a plastic and construction debris-strewn beach on Drakes Bay. During January, the beach and stream were inhabited by pregnant elephant seals; the mammals have migrated to Drakes Bay beaches to give birth since time immemorial.

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Seals inhabit ocean, stream and lagoon waters fed by a B Ranch waste pipe. Photo by Jocelyn Knight

In a statement prepared for this newspaper, Greg Sarris, chairperson of the Federated Indians of the Graton Rancheria, which co-manages the park, observed, “The seals are being sickened, and even dying, as a result of excess manure flowing to their habitats.”

Sarris suggested, “The dairymen might consider building a fence to keep the seals from areas greatly affected by the pollution flow.”

On Jan. 25, Rep. Jared Huffman sent a letter to Kenkel supporting Park Service “measures to prevent the seals from hauling out or pupping in areas where there is a need to remediate water quality problems, and measures to temporarily prevent cattle from grazing in areas where the seals are present.”  

Neither Sarris nor Huffman nor Kenkel nor Fernandez explained how many seals are sick and dying, nor how building more fences would help them. The agricultural pollution of the water table at B Ranch and throughout Point Reyes goes back decades; these flows cannot be stopped by wire fences. B Ranch has a history of dumping human sewage into the pastures.

Noaki Schwartz, spokesperson for the California Coastal Commission, another agency with jurisdiction over the Seashore, commented, “We were all surprised and frankly disgusted to hear about the discharge of agricultural waste into sensitive marine areas and have been looking into everything we can do to address it and prevent it from happening again. We are actively engaging with all the agencies with a relevant regulatory role to play in these areas and have spent the past week coordinating with them to figure out how best to proceed, both in the immediate and long term,” Schwartz stated.

In a Feb. 3 letter to Huffman, Kenkel stated, “The elephant seal use of Drakes Beach has dramatically increased in the last seven years, bringing the seals into contact with areas below active dairies.”

In an email to this newspaper, the Marine Mammal Center noted, “Proposed next steps include ongoing surveillance of pups at Point Reyes National Seashore for the presence of pathogens and antimicrobial resistance that may be linked to exposure to agricultural runoff or other anthropogenic factors.”

According to Joseph Sanchez, an elder of the Coast Miwok Tribal Council of Marin, “The degradation of the land, and officialdom’s disregard for the ecology of Point Reyes National Seashore, has been going on since the ranchers were paid millions of dollars to leave in the 1970s and did not leave. The elephant seals were here long before our ancestors, who were caretakers of the land. The streams were clear, and the salmon were running. The Tribal Council advocates for restoring Point Reyes to its native state without the presence of ranching.”

In 2020, a National Park Service environmental study determined that “impacts on water quality would be noticeable, long term, and beneficial” by eliminating ranching from the grossly polluted Seashore park. 

Nevertheless, the Park Service, with Huffman’s legislative support, is attempting to subsidize and expand the reach of environmentally destructive cattle and dairy ranching at Point Reyes, even though the general public and many scientists are strongly opposed. The Park Service is currently mediating a lawsuit brought by three national environmental groups petitioning to protect endemic wildlife and plants by removing ecologically harmful private ranching businesses from the Park.

FEB. 7, 2023 EDITOR’S NOTE: This story has been updated to reflect new information since it was first published online.

Just one pill: fentanyl deaths on the rise in Marin and Sonoma counties

Trevor Leopold would have turned 22 on Jan. 30. Instead, he’s “forever 18,” his mother says.

When Greenbrae resident Michelle Leopold received the news that her 18-year-old son died in his Sonoma State University dorm room, she didn’t need to wait for the coroner’s report to know what had killed him.

Although it was November 2019, before most parents had heard of the fentanyl crisis, there was no doubt in Michelle Leopold’s mind that this powerful synthetic opioid was the culprit. Sadly, she was well aware of the dangerous drug because her son’s close friend had succumbed to a fentanyl overdose the previous year.

Indeed, toxicology results confirmed that Trevor Leopold died after ingesting a pill laced with fentanyl. One pill.

He thought he was taking the prescription drug oxycodone, Michelle Leopold said. As it turned out, the fentanyl-laced pill contained no oxycodone at all. Similarly, Trevor Leopold’s friend, who died of a fentanyl overdose in 2018, believed he was consuming Xanax, a prescription benzodiazepine.

“One of the scariest things about this is that so many who end up overdosing don’t know they’re taking something with fentanyl in it,” Dr. Matt Willis, Marin County’s public health director, said in an interview. “It’s kind of like drinking punch that’s been spiked at a party—hard to call it abuse when it’s unintentional. More like a poisoning.”

Melissa Struzzo, manager of the Sonoma County Substance Use Disorder & Community Recovery Services, has the same concern as Willis. 

“There are naive users, who think they’re getting Vicodin or Percocet,” Struzzo said. “They’re not active users and have no tolerance built up for fentanyl. This group has a higher potential for overdose.”

Marin and Sonoma counties, like the rest of the United States, are experiencing a dramatic surge in drug overdoses. Grim statistics reveal the gravity of the crisis, driven by fentanyl.

Overdoses in Marin County have more than doubled since 2018, said Willis. Today, fentanyl is associated with over 50% of OD cases.

The number of fatal ODs in Marin has also increased significantly—more than 100% in the last three years. Every five days, someone dies of an overdose in the county. During 2021 and 2022, 60% of those deaths were linked to fentanyl.

Sonoma County is faring worse, with someone dying every two days from an overdose death, according to the Sonoma County Department of Health. Even more astounding is that deaths involving fentanyl increased by 2,550% from 2016 through 2021.

This increase is responsible for Sonoma County ranking 14th out of 58 in California for the highest drug overdose death rate. Sonoma County is second in the Bay Area for the greatest increase in the OD death rate, while San Francisco has the dubious distinction of landing in the top spot.

Exactly how did fentanyl, a powerful legal synthetic opioid developed in 1959, cause this nationwide crisis? Fentanyl, used as an analgesic during surgery and as a prescription drug to treat severe pain, is easily produced and affordable. 

Unfortunately, fentanyl’s characteristics also make it attractive to the illicit drug market. In recent years, the supply of fentanyl has grown swiftly, with most of it manufactured outside of the United States. The drug’s effect is similar to heroin, and it’s extremely addictive.

“Fentanyl is up to 100 times more potent than morphine,” Struzzo said.

Drug dealers bank on fentanyl’s addictive quality to keep their customers coming back for more. But just two milligrams of fentanyl—a few grains—can kill a person, according to the Drug Enforcement Agency, which prompted the agency to issue a health alert: “One pill can kill.”

Without access to the sophisticated and expensive scientific weights and measures used by a pharmaceutical company, it’s almost impossible for dealers to calculate how much fentanyl they’re putting into a pill or powder. 

And the guy or gal next door may be making those pills, with pill presses for all budgets just a few keystrokes away on Amazon. The presses allow dealers to pump out counterfeit pills that look almost identical to prescription drugs, such as Ritalin, Adderall and oxycodone.

“Fentanyl is now present in most illicit pills and powders,” Willis said. “People overdose from the presence of fentanyl in what’s sold on social media as prescription pills, cocaine or other powders.”

The opioid drug epidemic affects people of all ages, either through intentional or unintentional use. Even infants are brought to emergency rooms with fentanyl ODs.

The issue is daunting and complex; however, Marin and Sonoma have countywide collaboratives to attack the crisis from all sides.  

OD Free Marin has five teams, including intervention, treatment and recovery; youth action; education and outreach; equity action; and the justice system. The Sonoma County Prevention Partnership works on drug policy and advocacy efforts.

Both counties agree that a harm reduction approach is beneficial. For example, many pharmacies in Marin and Sonoma sell Narcan, a medication that can reverse the effects of fentanyl, without a prescription. Schools have Narcan, and staff have been trained to administer it. Some experts recommend that every first aid kit contain the life-saving medication. Substance abuse programs are also key to addressing fentanyl use.

Law enforcement agencies are working on getting dealers off the streets, but it can be difficult when social media platforms make it easy for them to hide. For example, Snapchat, a messaging app, allows users to determine how long their messages remain visible. In addition, dealers use different emojis for each drug they have available, negating the need to write anything incriminating. 

The illicit drug business, especially with inexpensive fentanyl readily available to dealers, is quite lucrative. There’s always a dealer ready to fill the void when another is arrested, according to Willis.

“Public health and law enforcement agree that we aren’t going to arrest our way out of this problem,” Willis said. “Instead, we partner with the justice system using all of the tools at our disposal, including diverting people with low level drug offenses to assessment and ensuring people who are incarcerated have access to addiction treatment.”

Willis, Struzzo and Michelle Leopold say it’s imperative that people understand the dangers of just one pill.

Leopold plans on educating as many people as possible about what happened to her son, with the goal of preventing fentanyl deaths. “People just don’t know,” she said.

Last year, Leopold and her husband hosted Narcan training sessions at the six Ace Hardware stores they own. Although Leopold admits it’s hard, she makes herself available to the media and speaks  at numerous public forums.

“When we got the phone calls about Trevor, I turned to my husband and said, ‘We can’t be quiet about this,’” Leopold said. “There are a lot of us speaking out on behalf of our dead, poisoned children. Hopefully, it’s making a difference.”

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