In wine country, we’re used to the notion of aging—especially when it comes to wine and cheese. But when it comes to our lives, will they also improve with age? The jury is still out—and hopefully on a prolonged recess.

When I was young, some called me an “old soul,” which is fitting since I’ve been having a midlife crisis since I was 15. Now that I’m entering the third act, as it were, I have both an old soul and an old body. My actuarial table needs a shim.

To assuage my misgivings, I turned to some experts.

Erin Partridge has so many letters after her name it looks like someone spilled alphabet soup on her business card: Ph.D., ATR-BC (which my copy editor tells me means she’s a board-certified art therapist). But beyond her clinical experience, Partridge is also a key member of Enso Village, a senior living community recently opened in North Healdsburg.

This is all to say when a question I posed about how the different generations are embracing aging came her way, she shut it down with both eloquence and wisdom.

“Anti-ageism researchers and advocates suggest spending less time focusing on generational labels and more time focusing on the things that connect us. Which is a positive change!” says Partridge, who’s worked in community, pediatric, forensic and geriatric settings and has published in the areas of art therapy, arts access, elder care, gender, research methods, professional development and technology. She adds, “Our collective experiences over the past few years highlight the harm possible from loneliness and isolation.”

Admittedly, Partridge’s assertions make me feel a bit naive, which is like feeling young again—you know, back when being rightfully schooled by one’s elders was a daily occurrence. It’s refreshing since these days, I’m usually schooled by teenagers and ChatGPT.

That said, it doesn’t allay my fears regarding aging or my hope that I can stop aging but without dying since I’m well past the “Live fast, die young, and leave a beautiful corpse” phase.

“With regard to fear and hope, this is another area of interesting research—a negative view of aging (in general, or about oneself) can create poor health outcomes,” says Partridge. “As we see more examples of supportive, intergenerational communities, we will hopefully see a reduction in the negative views about aging.”

To that end—literally—there are benefits to be experienced while traipsing to the inevitable.

“One of the biggest benefits we saw in a community project about growing older, and that I have since heard echoed over and over in practices, is the perspective and increased self-confidence that comes with more life experience. One way we might be able to better grow older is to embrace our curiosity. This was recently exemplified by a resident at Enso Village who described herself as ‘all in’ for new experiences,” Partridge notes.

Wise and dare I say, inspiring? It would stand for reason—Partridge’s title at Enso Village is “head of inspirement.”

Boomers in particular may need some “inspirement,” as 2024 marks the year the youngest among them turn 60.

“Born between 1946 to 1964, boomers are age 60 to 78,” reminds Mindy Solkin,the founder and creator of BB Babes, the fashion, fitness and health network for baby boomer women. To that end, Solkin is marking 2024 as “The Year of the Baby Boomer Woman.”

“Hitting age 60 is a milestone, somewhere between thinking about retiring, already retired or never going to retire,” she says.

“Boomers are re-inventing themselves and giving back, helping themselves while they help others,” says Solkin. “I went from coaching 30-year-old runners to creating a new venture focused on bringing my five decades of knowledge and experience to boomer women who want to look and feel their best at every age.”

Susan Williams, RN, a senior health expert with extensive experience in gerontology and senior care, concurs.

“Having redefined every life stage they’ve passed through, boomers are now redefining retirement, often seeking active, purposeful post-retirement lives,” says Williams, who is also a senior health contributor at Retirement Being, specializing in aging demographics and elderly care. “They are not just settling into traditional retirement but are exploring new careers, engaging in volunteer work and even starting businesses. Boomers view retirement as a new phase of opportunity and adventure, often focusing on personal growth, lifelong learning and community involvement.”

Conversely, on the other end of the spectrum, Williams perceives millennials’ approach to aging as a “mix of apprehension and proactive planning.”

“They are more inclined to focus on wellness and preventive care from a younger age, showing a keen interest in holistic health approaches and technological innovations in healthcare. This generation is also more vocal about mental health, seeking to destigmatize related issues and incorporate mental wellness into their aging process,” she says.

Common fears across these generations, according to Williams, include health decline, financial insecurity and the loss of independence. Millennials worry about the long-term impacts of their lifestyle choices and environmental factors—and perhaps the availability of avocado toast. Whereas boomers and Gen X often fear age-related diseases and losing the ability to care for themselves.

And the upside?

“Conversely, their hopes are centered around healthy aging, maintaining independence and having fulfilling, active lives even in later years,” says Williams. “Growing older brings many benefits, such as increased wisdom, deeper self-understanding and a clearer sense of what’s truly important in life. Seniors frequently report higher levels of happiness and satisfaction compared to younger individuals.”

Williams reminds us that to age better we should all embrace a healthy lifestyle, maintain social connections and engage in lifelong learning.

“It’s also important to plan for the future, including financial planning, healthcare and living arrangements, to ensure a comfortable and fulfilling older age,” she adds.

One of the upsides to aging that hadn’t occurred to me until researching this piece is that mainstream culture has time to catch up to generational tastes. As Mary Westheimer, author of the upcoming book What Nobody Tells You About Getting Older, points out, “We finally like the music in the grocery store.”

This is the time of year when chumps like me attempt to go from dissolute to resolute about health- and wellness-themed New Year’s resolutions.

Let’s all pause here to laugh.

Moving on—even though most of us received public school educations, we generally know what “health” means, but what is “wellness” exactly? Is it a state of mind, a state of being? Does it have any real-life medical aspect?

“Wellness is different for all of us,” says Sarah Ezrin, a Bay Area-based yoga educator and content creator whose book, The Yoga of Parenting, is a 2023 National Parenting Product Award Winner. “What I need to be healthy differs greatly from what you or my neighbor need. This includes the amount of calories we eat, exercises we engage in and foods we consume.”

Ezrin points to Ayurveda, a concept from yoga that advocates tailoring one’s lifestyle to their unique constitution and environment. For example, a high-energy and anxious individual might avoid caffeine and intense workouts. In contrast, these could benefit someone who is more relaxed and slower-paced.

“Wellness is not one size fits all. It’s about determining your individual needs,” she adds.

Among the wellness trends this year, says Ezrin, is a greater emphasis put on sleeping.

“Something we’re going to be seeing a lot more of is rest. People are still feeling the burnout effects of the pandemic and weight of the world, and where fast fitness and loud exercise classes were once the preferred outlet, now people are seeking slower-moving paces and more grounding and stability,” Ezrin notes.

For some of us, sleeping is tantamount to “sleeping it off,” at least when it comes to the wine consumption that’s so easily achieved in our area.

“I’m not a physician, but if we take the idea that wellness is a living thing we have to attend to each day, then I could see how, for some people, wine is related to wellness,” says Simone Koger, who is originally from the Healdsburg area and is now a therapist in Washington state.

“As someone born and raised in Sonoma, wine brings people together, creates new connections, friendships, exploration of foods and community,” says Koger. “If these are things that people want to have consistently in their lives, then there could be an argument that wine can be related to wellness. Whereas someone who needs to be sober in order to function safely and healthily might find another avenue of creating community and connection.”

Having lived through the wine-adjacent health fads that have popped up like so many Champagne corks in recent years, I maintain cautious optimism. Remember the French paradox—“the observation of low coronary heart disease death rates despite high intake of dietary cholesterol and saturated fat,” according to the National Library of Medicine?

Or, in the mid-aughts, when sales of red wine supplements were surging thanks to a finding “that mice that were fed resveratrol, a component of red wine grapes, lived longer,” according to an NPR piece by Allison Aubrey that happened to feature this reporter as a “source,” when I “offered to be a test subject in a human study.” Perhaps not one of my best-laid schemes, but it was affirming to briefly bask in the national spotlight.

Then there is the “New Sonoma Diet”—not to be confused with the original, not as new, “Sonoma Diet”—which was re-introduced by Dr. Connie Guttersen last June and theoretically could result in a “trimmer waist [and] more energy in just 10 days.”

In its review of the new edition, WebMD observes that the diet’s “emphasis is on a cornucopia of flavorful, nutrient-dense ‘power foods,’ including almonds, bell peppers, blueberries, broccoli, grapes, olive oil, spinach, strawberries, tomatoes, and whole grains.” I’ve not read the “New Sonoma Diet,” but I submit that putting the above power foods in a powerful blender might result in a helluva powerful smoothie. Don’t try this at home.

What one can try at home are the hundreds of apps available to track calories (both earned and burned), drinks (did you know that a unit of alcohol is not the same as a serving?), cycles of every sort (from sleeping to menstrual) and presumably receive AI-infused recommendations on how to live a long and healthy life. For example, an app on my phone suggested I try “Dry January.” Its hopes gradually faded to “Drier January” and, most recently, “Dry-ish January.” Ping! It just invented “Dry February.”

“Despite the onslaught of non-alcoholic beverages, I think wine is still respected in the realm of wellness,” says Ezrin. “There are organic wines and low sulfate brands, so you can consciously consume. The key to anything in wellness is balance. In the yoga world, many events combine yoga classes and wine—especially in the North Bay!—but I see it in other sectors, too,” she adds, reminding that the F45 Training fitness centers that dot the North Bay sometimes serve mimosas.

“Unfortunately, one of the challenges with alcohol is that it’s a depressant, and the sulfates can mess with our sleep,” notes Ezrin. “This is why sulfate-free wine can be helpful, [as is] making sure to stay incredibly hydrated and mindful.”

Ultimately, Ezrin reminds us that one of our best health hacks is where we live.

“We are so blessed in the North Bay with our stunning weather. Even on the days it’s cold or rainy, we’re able to get outside. The number one tip for wellness is to get outside and move. This is calming for our nervous system on a number of levels—nature is calming, movement increases endorphins—which then influences all the other major systems in our body: endocrine, immunity, hormones, sleep. And honestly, it all comes back to sleep! Whatever we can do to help ourselves sleep better and more efficiently will be the greatest wellness hack we can ever employ,” says Ezrin.

Zzzz.